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by tchest77
Wed Feb 19, 2020 8:58 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?
Replies: 11
Views: 1123

Re: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?

Thanks again, good explanations! Till next time :)
by tchest77
Wed Feb 19, 2020 5:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?
Replies: 11
Views: 1123

Re: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?

WW, Makes sense, and I appreciate the understanding that our emotions are based on a belief of something, this does help to get to a possible answer rather than going in circles tying to make sense otherwise, really a great short cut to what really is going on. Thanks for that! I can see outside of ...
by tchest77
Tue Feb 18, 2020 8:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?
Replies: 11
Views: 1123

Re: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?

WW, thanks again! Is it possible to be in that conscious alignment but also be emotional consciously? I understand being under unconscious control and thinking you're in control when you're not happens, but..... can someone be consciously in control of their emotions while giving in to their emotion...
by tchest77
Tue Feb 18, 2020 4:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?
Replies: 11
Views: 1123

Re: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?

Hey WW, Thanks again. This process is confusing as it seems like I go in and out of these states. A part of me gets mad at how things don't go my way (usually I'm based off how someone talks to me or if I think they're not treating me properly), and then this is the reactivity within me I see. When ...
by tchest77
Tue Feb 18, 2020 3:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?
Replies: 11
Views: 1123

Re: How can I not be selfish or should I do what I feel?

After all this time I realize that no one can really answer a question in what someone should do when they are conflicted with what is right or wrong for them, as people need to learn for themselves, and this is the path of life. I have gotten to a place where I am seeing how attached I am to other ...
by tchest77
Sun Jan 05, 2020 9:29 pm
Forum: Awakening / Spiritual Enlightenment / Truth-Realization
Topic: How to be bothered without being self identified?
Replies: 2
Views: 634

How to be bothered without being self identified?

Is it ok to be bothered by something or someone without being self identifying with what's bothering you? How to know if what is bothering you is you self identifying with it? I feel being bothered is a normal human trait, however, I'm trying to understand to what extent this this ok, or what clues ...
by tchest77
Tue Dec 03, 2019 6:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Am I the toxic one?
Replies: 1
Views: 869

Am I the toxic one?

I just don't want to repeat my patterns. Most relationships I ended I had my "reason"..... I wasn't attracted, they weren't motivated, or I wasn't in love. Now, my feelings are that I no longer want to feel her frustration; it's her suttle tension that comes and goes that I am bothered by. I just do...
by tchest77
Tue Nov 26, 2019 4:20 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Help me to understand my self identification interpretation
Replies: 2
Views: 349

Help me to understand my self identification interpretation

I have been learning and open to this false made sense of self through understanding reactivity. If possible, any guidance towards an understanding of my interpretation is appreciated, if I am way off track, thinking to much, or looking like I am onto personal growth; I am open to any criticism. So,...
by tchest77
Mon Nov 18, 2019 4:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Struggle with husbands change over the years
Replies: 6
Views: 1250

Re: Struggle with husbands change over the years

Consistently being disrespected and treated like garbage is no excuse to blame your ego. You do what you have to for yourself. Anyone could say the ego is in control, and it is when we are suffering, but there is something also called what is right and wrong in this human life, that is why murder is...
by tchest77
Mon Nov 18, 2019 4:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Struggle with husbands change over the years
Replies: 6
Views: 1250

Re: Struggle with husbands change over the years

Eckhart says there are three ways to deal with challenges like this: accept the situation, change the situation or leave the situation. Accepting may be hard, changing may be hard, leaving may be hard. But not accepting, not changing and not leaving is a recipe for suffering. You will have to pick ...
by tchest77
Sat Nov 16, 2019 4:38 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: My Thoughts have no Validity
Replies: 3
Views: 636

Re: My Thoughts have no Validity

Hi SamiT, The following is not medical advice, but just my take on what's going on and I'll share how I can relate to what has happened in my life. Not sure if I'm too late on this or if you'd ever read this, but I can relate to the "evil" thoughts. I too have had similar thoughts, and until I got m...
by tchest77
Fri Nov 15, 2019 4:13 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How can I not let my ego control who I'm around?
Replies: 0
Views: 370

How can I not let my ego control who I'm around?

I find people who consistently in their life complain, whine, are negative, ect, and not towards me, but just their way of ego expression, I'd rather not be around. The sad part is, this will affect my relationships with them. Not that I will fight back, but I'd rather just be around people who are ...
by tchest77
Mon Nov 11, 2019 5:02 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Is it Ego or intuition?
Replies: 0
Views: 388

Is it Ego or intuition?

During my girlfriends stress, in my gut, I get this uncomfortable feeling, is this my ego or is it my intuition saying something isn't right? I thought this was my ego, since my emotions feel reactive at these times, but now I'm thinking maybe it is just my intuition (my gut instinct) to feel that s...
by tchest77
Mon Nov 11, 2019 12:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Am I failing due to ego, when to say ok ego, you win?
Replies: 0
Views: 453

Am I failing due to ego, when to say ok ego, you win?

I understand the question to this post is flawed in itself, as anyone's feelings are about them, but I just need others thoughts on this. Everyone I have ever had a loving relationship with, the story seems to be true. It starts off nice and new, then slowly being more of who your unconscious mind i...
by tchest77
Sun Nov 10, 2019 11:27 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Maybe it's not ego and just a misdiagnosis
Replies: 5
Views: 605

Re: Maybe it's not ego and just a misdiagnosis

Thank Smiiley, good points! Just wondering, if it is in fact a chemical issue that is out of balance, even if one is to be in awareness when this is impacting their thoughts, I could easily see that person having a difficult uncorrected life through this, considering if this pain subsides, and comes...