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Wow! That was years ago. Turns out, he was unstable. I had to call the police on him because he was stalking me after I broke up with him. I knew better, and I still tried to make a go of it with him. Lesson learned. Now I trust my gut. Now I'm with a wonderful man, and we allow each other alot of s...

All good questions Robin. I've been trying to accept that everyone has these lessons to learn, but, obviously, this man is really mixed up so it's over.

Dear Housecat, Thanks. That sounds like a good plan, but he's not accepting anything anyone tells him. He's just out to argue. And I've been nothing but clear: We're done, arguing and all. It's interesting that you say he thinks the world is against him. It's just me. But I think you're right: He's ...

Well, this story does not have a happy ending. Maybe there's a limit to this accepting stuff. It's gotten me into alot of unneeded drama. I tried to give him some space before breaking up with him, and when I came home he was sitting on my front step. Yup. I'm being stalked. Skipping the details, I ...

Thanks. I really am happy just being with him. We had a nice trip to Boston. We do have fun. But then, he's overcome with these demands. sometimes it's even that my reaction to something he says is not what he wants, right down to the words i use. I am giving him open ended responses that are like, ...

Dear samandi, Of course. But that's his complaint: I'm not reading his mind, I'm not anticipating his every need. I am just doing my own thing, and he's in tears, pleading with me to become the woman in his head instead of myself. I am just being me, and he's telling me that's a betrayal of his need...

Those famous, immortal words: I knew they were coming: "All I want is..." Yep. I knew we were on this road. It was only a matter of time. Actually, it didn't take long. I'm not supplying what he wants. I'm holding out. Being with him, enjoying him isn't enough. He's actually making up things I think...

Dear Stefan, You obviously haven't tried to sleep with a chain saw lying right next to you! I fear I'll never be THAT spiritual! He's a wonderful man. But he thinks he needs alot of little things that really don't actually make him happy, and then, when I don't come through as the supplier of all th...

All this drama! I really had forgotten.

LIfe really is easier alone, but, here I am, missing the male influence in my life until it's keeping me up nights snoring!!!

Falling in love is an opportunity for two people to ongoingly surrender to love, and this requires a great deal of conscious presence to maintain. What can often happen is that one or other, or both, of the pair is not sufficiently present (conscious) to be able to maintain surrender, and so then a...

cbuilder wrote: Why then can't I find peace in my relationship?
Christopher

Welcome, Christopher.
I believe Eckhart would reply that you will not ever find peace in relationship with others. But you can find peace within yourself. It's always with you. Underneath the drama.

It is also possible for others, that attachment to form in this way could strengthen their form identity, and lead to a dependency on the other form, for the continued feeling of completeness. James James, I'm experiencing this in my current relationship. Addiction to form as an attempt to soothe t...

Yep. I did it. Here I am, with a man and his great big NY italian ego. Talk me down off the ledge! It's been 2 months, and already, he's furious with me. I'm not supplying him with the gratification of his every little oh-so-immediately important demanding little ego. What a tyrant his ego is! I had...

That's beautiful, great2be. I envy you. I'm just embarking on my first attempt at such a happy relationship. I think I'm ready. The interesting thing is, I was approaching the idea of ending a dysfunctional relationship from a totally different point, but my words work for your situation as well. Fa...

Speaking from experience- You'll know you're done learning from someone when that person no longer has any use for you in his/her inner conflict games. You simply will have nothing to share or exchange and so there will be no possible way of interacting. That's when you know you're really done being...