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by Tommes
Thu Jul 22, 2010 10:19 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: NOW applied to relationships
Replies: 2
Views: 356

Re: NOW applied to relationships

Hi Learner, I also had the exactly the same question as you have. And there is no answer, not for me. You are not going with a complete idiot because in a earlier stage you didn't choose for her. The girl you are now serious with has something that others didn't have otherwise you would picked anoth...
by Tommes
Wed May 12, 2010 10:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: romantic love
Replies: 18
Views: 4202

Re: romantic love

But is it because this egoic attraction is so strong, it is a portal to awakening? How to deal with the 'romantic love' when you encounter it by yourself? Is it again enough to be aware that it is the ego playing up? By awakening you recognize yourself in others, but could you then still 'fall in lo...
by Tommes
Tue May 11, 2010 10:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: romantic love
Replies: 18
Views: 4202

Re: romantic love

Welcome, Emma! I agree that romantic love is a challenge. If we don't confuse it with the much deeper reality of pure awareness, it's a little easier. Romantic love can change, we know that. If romantic love can change, what is romantic love then? Is it still something based upon the ego? I you are...
by Tommes
Sun May 02, 2010 10:54 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?
Replies: 6
Views: 447

Re: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?

Thanks for the replies, but I'm stil a bit curious about how people 'choose' there partners? I'm now understand about letting go the story, but it is at the moment quit difficult. Because I made a big story already and I notice my mind wants to think about the future, when I'm going to meet her agai...
by Tommes
Sat May 01, 2010 4:28 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?
Replies: 6
Views: 447

Re: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?

From my perspective, being present is a state of greater awareness. You can still think, but thinking doesn't control you. But everytime I have a date with a girl, the thinking wants to sort out if she is something for me. Apparently this doesn't work, because i don't get an answer. Will the mind b...
by Tommes
Fri Apr 30, 2010 8:19 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?
Replies: 6
Views: 447

Re: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?

Thanks for your respone Plorel, I appreciate it. I understand what you say. But I find it hard to remove my story from this, while I'm now dating with the girl. However there is also no other option, saying to her I want a break doesn't mean sense because there is nothing to break yet! I find it jus...
by Tommes
Fri Apr 30, 2010 5:24 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?
Replies: 6
Views: 447

Love for the other gender. What makes her the one for you?

Hi, Not long ago I met a girl. On that evening i was very present and loving life. The girl also looked very beautiful and it was a very cosy and pleasant evening. Mainly because I didn't labbeled everything that was happening and expected nothing from her. But when seeying her unconscious, my ego i...
by Tommes
Mon Apr 12, 2010 3:53 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How to deal with: opinions and complaining
Replies: 8
Views: 1241

Re: How to deal with: opinions and complaining

What i gradually discoverd is that you won't remain mute for a long time. If you don't 'feed' the complaining behaviour of other peoples the subject of the conservation will switch to another subject, where you can interact because that is not ego based. If a group is complaining and you don't give ...
by Tommes
Tue Apr 06, 2010 2:06 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Intimacy and Pain Body
Replies: 3
Views: 339

Re: Intimacy and Pain Body

Thanks for your answer. But I also get these questions when i was intimitate with a girl I don't even like. With who I don't even want a relationship. Its a kind of fear for the unknowing, about what is coming. It does not seems to matter if I like the girl or not, but the trigger is always intimacy...
by Tommes
Mon Apr 05, 2010 11:55 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Intimacy and Pain Body
Replies: 3
Views: 339

Intimacy and Pain Body

Hi! I am bringing more stillness into my live. And I can already see the benefits. I am much more relaxt and many thoughts don't take me into inconsciousness anymore. But I think i have a strong pain body on 1 aspect and that is intimacy with a girl. Last week I had a date with a girl and I was pres...
by Tommes
Sat Feb 27, 2010 6:00 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: My experiences and questions
Replies: 3
Views: 358

Re: My experiences and questions

Okay! Thanks for the help:-)

I'm 21 so maybe i also experience the strong EGO. But thats not a reason to not be more presence in my live. So I will continue awakening!

Thanks,
Tom
by Tommes
Fri Feb 26, 2010 9:36 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: My experiences and questions
Replies: 3
Views: 358

My experiences and questions

Hi, Still quiet new to the fora, but reading it already a few weeks. I read alot from eckhart en watch his recorded meetings. I have some experiences i want to share and maybe your comments can help me. I'm trying to integrate more presence in my life. This because since 3 years I am 24/hour thinkin...
by Tommes
Sun Feb 21, 2010 3:00 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How to deal with: opinions and complaining
Replies: 8
Views: 1241

Re: How to deal with: opinions and complaining

Thanks for the responses. I learned a lot from them. @ Sighclone You are wondering why he is stil my friend? But if you block all your friends that are complainers then there aren't many friends left. Isn't this isolation of yourself? Eckhart always says you are not becoming an other person, but jus...
by Tommes
Sat Feb 20, 2010 6:43 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How to deal with: opinions and complaining
Replies: 8
Views: 1241

How to deal with: opinions and complaining

Hi! Just new here, but already reading this forum for a couple of weeks. I'm seriously into Eckhart Tolle since 1 month. Before that i did not see the light in his story and i thought is was to simpel. It is helping me making my live less stressfull. But i discover it is hard te maintain in a very b...