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by CaiHong
Tue Aug 08, 2017 9:47 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Miserable when I Interact
Replies: 13
Views: 961

Re: Miserable when I Interact

Thanks Mystic for your reply, One think I do observe within myself is how I become defensive to unfair criticism, I make a distinction between fair and unfair, I usually am aware when I am wrong and fess up but my emotions come heavily into play, its not just thoughts, anger is a biggie. When someon...
by CaiHong
Mon Aug 07, 2017 10:28 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Miserable when I Interact
Replies: 13
Views: 961

Re: Miserable when I Interact

Good point mystic, In intense situations for example where the boss creates a lot of chaos and stress around her and I can see it clearly and I really don't want to react and get caught up in the madness but I eventually do. Any advice on how to prevent my reactions. Most of us switch off and take o...
by CaiHong
Thu Aug 03, 2017 2:17 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Miserable when I Interact
Replies: 13
Views: 961

Re: Miserable when I Interact

Thanks Steve for those quotes I found them most helpful. Like the previous 2 posters I find some social interaction unbearable. A week ago I was coerced into going to a live performance that I clearly did not want to attend but in the end went. I became the 6 year old child, a furry ball of resentme...
by CaiHong
Mon May 08, 2017 2:12 am
Forum: Support the Forum
Topic: The People Who Make This Possible
Replies: 11
Views: 6610

Re: The People Who Make This Possible

I would like to donate to the forum but I don't have a paypal account in my name, years ago a friend let me use her credit card and PayPal account using my own email address and since them I get messages from PayPal and I have tried to explain the situation so that I can get a PayPal account, finall...
by CaiHong
Wed Dec 09, 2015 2:11 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why is there so much resistance to presence?
Replies: 17
Views: 1464

Re: Why is there so much resistance to presence?

Thanks Keymaster,
Enjoy your time in Honduras, perhaps if I was younger I might investigate your offer.
Cheers
CaiHong
by CaiHong
Sun Dec 06, 2015 1:40 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why is there so much resistance to presence?
Replies: 17
Views: 1464

Re: Why is there so much resistance to presence?

Thanks Manyana for the link, i will check it out when I have finished work. Thanks key master, I do understand the subtleties intellectually. But it is something I will pay more attention to and experiment with. The way I experience it is when I am enjoying what I am doing there is less debilitating...
by CaiHong
Sat Dec 05, 2015 1:17 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why is there so much resistance to presence?
Replies: 17
Views: 1464

Re: Why is there so much resistance to presence?

Thanks Phantom for your input, The thing with ET, is he says it better than anyone else I have come across. I am no stranger to addiction and am in a program that I greatly value along with ET. ET has said that he would prefer you to follow his suggestions than to read his books and I get that, for ...
by CaiHong
Thu Dec 03, 2015 1:22 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why is there so much resistance to presence?
Replies: 17
Views: 1464

Re: Why is there so much resistance to presence?

Hi Wander, I strongly identify with your post. What ET says has so much truth that I feel and understand on the level of the mind and at times when I do go into it I have a fleeting, something, a reduction in thinking, a bit more intense than a good cup of coffee. On Monday I took a 3 hour bus ride ...
by CaiHong
Wed Nov 25, 2015 12:07 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Introductions
Replies: 5
Views: 856

Re: Introductions

Hi Rustus,

Look forward to reading your experiences and practices. I often recommend Eckhart Tolle to people, it's quite interesting that the people I am closest to don't even bother to read him. To be honest though there are few spiritual teachers that I bother to read or listen to.

CaiHong
by CaiHong
Mon Sep 28, 2015 2:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Doubts about this relationship
Replies: 15
Views: 1367

Re: Doubts about this relationship

Present tense, imagine it was someone else, not you, that started this thread. What would you say to the person, what advice would you give? From what is written it seems pretty obvious that the guy doesn't want the level of commitment and intimacy that you want, yet you hang in there hoping it will...
by CaiHong
Thu Sep 24, 2015 12:26 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Enlightenment bliss vs chemical bliss (drugs)
Replies: 4
Views: 602

Re: Enlightenment bliss vs chemical bliss (drugs)

There was a time when I would self medicate with alcohol and could not imagine how I could ever cope or enjoy life without it. ET said something, I can't quote verbatim about the world would be even crazier or a bigger mess if people didn't use drugs to calm themselves down, something to that effect...
by CaiHong
Thu Sep 24, 2015 12:10 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: I or One
Replies: 5
Views: 587

Re: I or One

Hi Atte 72,
I really enjoyed your analogy using sea, bottles and our separation from oneness. I will take that with me thoughout the day.
Thanks for sharing
CaiHong
by CaiHong
Thu Sep 24, 2015 12:02 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Describe your daily practice ?
Replies: 7
Views: 698

Re: Describe your daily practice ?

Hi Bobdylanfan fan, Good enquiry, I have been wondering about how people implement the practice of consciousness into their daily lives as well. I usually wake up early around five and lie in bed with my thoughts trying not to follow them down the rabbit hole, then I will go to my recovery forum, re...
by CaiHong
Mon Sep 21, 2015 12:25 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Creating change....from within
Replies: 46
Views: 3479

Re: Creating change....from within

Nicely articulated post EB, I totally agree with your position, pity your friend is not at a place where she can listen to you. Two things came to mind after reading your post, "physician heal thyself" and a Monty Python song, "I am so worried about". It can't be stressed enought the impact we have ...
by CaiHong
Thu Sep 17, 2015 11:32 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Creating change....from within
Replies: 46
Views: 3479

Re: Creating change....from within

I also found your friends reaction sanctimonious and didn't sit well with me, I started to have reactive thoughts such as the majority of people would think her natural healing" pursuits an indulgence and that she would be more useful working in the established medical society, lobbying against the ...