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Dear Far, nice post of you, thats what i needed, some personal experiences. Btw what kind of problems does your partner have?? I told my whole story to an expert, he said im pretty damn healthy but there is a certain degree of fear of closeness/relationship, probably from the early childhood... Im n...

Btw in many buddhist poetries they describe love as not needing the other, staying also distant from him without feeling alone...i've been like that for years, but if everyone was like that no family would exist. I start finding it a bit sad.

Btw i want to give up and adapt myself to the mainstream conception...life will be much easier, instead of living like a steppen wolf like till now. I want to force myself. You are free to experience whatever you 'want' Imago - just remember you did the creating of it. ;) (and don't blame others fo...

You know what, smiley?? Yes, i agree that of course everyone has his own interpretations of love and relationships, most people interpret love = always together I dont agree with it, i think you can't love if you can't stay alone... Btw i want to give up and adapt myself to the mainstream conception...

Smiley, i read everything and agree with most things. I truly love myself and live the present moment - born again at the age of 24. Btw, just everyday exemples: in a close relationship between man and woman, both are not attached to each other....i mean how can it works?? Will they stay for hours w...

Dear Smiley, thank you so much for your posts, i need some time to understand and realize everything, so i will read and read it again. It's a very hard moment for me....i love my new bf but he can't simply realize the way i am, i guess....i know he´ s suffering and i feel bad about it...he simply c...

ah dear imago :) Here's the thing - If the answer is not yes, then it's no. That may not be no for all time, but it is no for now. If you think he expects/desires/wants 'yes' & you're afraid to say no then you are feeding fear, and that's why your head is all over the place. If he puts an ultimatum...

Sure, he may try to control or manipulate you, but in reality they're mind games. You can't be controlled or manipulated unless you allow it. Sometimes that means making difficult choices if faced with an ultimatum, but they're your choices and yours to make if the situation arises. But i have the ...

Sure, he may try to control or manipulate you, but in reality they're mind games. You can't be controlled or manipulated unless you allow it. Sometimes that means making difficult choices if faced with an ultimatum, but they're your choices and yours to make if the situation arises. But i have the ...

What is blocking me is: i have the feeling his happiness and life depends on me, he's full of expectation and soon sad or angry (takes revenge) when he doesnt get what he receives. He wants nothing else than love and attention, but he "pretends" to be the priority on everything. He gets angry when ...

Ok, so here's another thought...why rush into this? I HAD to move in with my bf at the time back when I was 18 if we were going to be together or move with my parents. I didn't have the choices that you do. It worked out for me, but in your case, why rush it, before you're 100% sure it's what you r...

Im going nut....my life is now totally blocked coz i can't move on, i have the feeling he needs me in order to be happy and it makes me feel uncomfortable. Yet i would like to have a family and i would be k.o. if i'd lose him...
These are the hardest day of my last years.

Is it normality or not?? I dunno about it...

How do you feel with it?? Do you feel comfortable?? I have the feeling the happiness of my partner is depending on me, he does everything possible in order to get love and attention, has many expectations and constantly angry when he doesnt get them. Of course i love him and he has 10000 quality, he...

ps My friends say he just loves me and wants me as much as possible. I can't get any better, he's a lovely man. I know. Im feeling so confused and guilty...i have to take decisions if i dont want to lose him. But he's soooo unsecure....once i said i love my dauther above everything and he became ang...