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by oak tree
Sun Nov 20, 2016 7:07 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Overcoming Infatuation
Replies: 2
Views: 275

Overcoming Infatuation

Hi all, Recently I have developed an infatuation on a man who works in same building. Initially we were both flirting and it was playful. We are both single. In the last month he seems to have totally taken over my thoughts. I'm distracted and can't seem to concentrate on anything else. I keep tryin...
by oak tree
Fri Aug 14, 2015 5:04 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Difficulty finding a job
Replies: 2
Views: 673

Difficulty finding a job

I gave up working several years ago to care for a family member. I had enough savings so I wouldn't have to work. However I now find myself back in the situation that I need to find a job. I've been applying for various jobs for months and still I haven't even got any interviews. Feelings of despair...
by oak tree
Fri Aug 14, 2015 4:04 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Narcissism
Replies: 33
Views: 2485

Re: Narcissism

Yes I do wonder sometimes if I'm deluded and maybe I just use spirituality as an excuse not to face up to my issues. Especially when I have unpleasant encounters with people. When I look at my life situation it often looks like I'm regressing instead of moving forwards. Possibly I read too many new ...
by oak tree
Sun Jul 26, 2015 12:06 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening?
Replies: 9
Views: 781

Re: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening

Thank you dijmart. That's very helpful.
by oak tree
Sat Jul 25, 2015 3:37 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening?
Replies: 9
Views: 781

Re: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening

Thanks Onceler, I had felt free of depression, anxiety etc until recently. My internal state was much improved for years. Recently negativity has returned. Yes rachmiel, i will keep going. Thanks, I feel motivated by your post. I did have a trusted spiritual teacher but at the moment I cannot afford...
by oak tree
Fri Jul 24, 2015 5:49 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening?
Replies: 9
Views: 781

Re: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening

Thanks Manyana, that makes sense.

For the past 2 years I've been meditating on letting go of control and surrendering to life. Since then life seems to have become much more challenging. Perhaps this is what needs to be experienced? It feels like there is a lot of resistance inside me.
by oak tree
Fri Jul 24, 2015 4:11 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening?
Replies: 9
Views: 781

Do conditions usually improve when a person is awakening?

I remember Eckhart speaking in a video about how life conditions usually improve when a person is awakening. In the last few months my situation seems to have become more difficult. Most days I deal with feelings of struggle and stress and not being able to cope. I do wonder if somehow I went wrong,...
by oak tree
Thu Jul 09, 2015 3:13 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling trapped
Replies: 7
Views: 948

Re: Feeling trapped

Smileyjen, I don't see see any other options.

Manyana, i will look at the situation as a spiritual teacher, thank you.
by oak tree
Mon Jul 06, 2015 11:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling trapped
Replies: 7
Views: 948

Re: Feeling trapped

Thanks for all the responses. Its impossible to have an honest conversation with him because he is usually drunk. If he's not drunk he is too irritable to talk to. I agreed to live with him because i have no income. I became an unpaid carer and couldnt pay the rent on my apartment. So i moved in wit...
by oak tree
Sat Jul 04, 2015 10:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling trapped
Replies: 7
Views: 948

Feeling trapped

Recently, I reunited with an ex boyfriend. We started living together. This situation has quickly turned into a nightmare. We have totally different personalities and lifestyles. I find him too aggressive and angry. If feels like everything I do is wrong. There is no peace in this living situation. ...
by oak tree
Tue Feb 17, 2015 11:40 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Is everyone here anxious?
Replies: 22
Views: 1593

Re: Is everyone here anxious?

Yes I definitely felt a lot of anxiety / fear before starting my spiritual search and it was the main reason I was drawn to spiritual teachings in the first place.
by oak tree
Fri Feb 13, 2015 8:37 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Not doing good today
Replies: 8
Views: 601

Re: Not doing good today

Hi blissrunn14

I sometimes feel lonely too and a deep longing for a partner / family. I dont think there is anything wrong with you because it hasnt happened for you or because you feel the way you do. Who knows what life will bring you in the future.
by oak tree
Thu Apr 24, 2014 4:03 pm
Forum: Pain and Suffering
Topic: Suffering
Replies: 16
Views: 1637

Re: Suffering

Hi Clarejasmine, I can relate to what you write about. I've had relationships end badly and been left with enormous pain and feelings of worthlessness. Now I'm thankful for these relationships as I wouldn't be here without them. It seems to me that you are doing very well, facing your pain with hone...
by oak tree
Wed Apr 23, 2014 12:48 pm
Forum: Adyashanti
Topic: Adya on Oprah at Easter
Replies: 2
Views: 859

Re: Adya on Oprah at Easter

Hi Andy,

I didn't know about Adya's new book. So thanks for posting about it. I just bought it, nice to have to have something new to read. I know he has a background in zen / buddhism - its a suprise he's writing about jesus.
by oak tree
Thu Mar 20, 2014 3:11 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Understand the pain body or just feel it.
Replies: 2
Views: 258

Re: Understand the pain body or just feel it.

Hello again :) In my experience it can take intense presence / stillness to be able to face strong negative emotions without being taken over by them. Its very helpful to be present in ordinary circumstances and gradually it will be easier to face more challenging situations and emotions. I don't fi...