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by davemill
Wed Jan 11, 2017 10:13 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Not Reacting to Insults
Replies: 9
Views: 442

Re: Not Reacting to Insults

I agree, but people are too good at hiding the fact that they feel threatened
Yes, this is the unconsciousness that Tolle discusses so frequently. But we ARE conscious, or at least we're all working on it...

So take a deep breath, meditate or listen to Tolle...you know the drill!
by davemill
Wed Jan 11, 2017 3:21 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Read all three books - feel much worse.
Replies: 10
Views: 668

Re: Read all three books - feel much worse.

There is no better way to return your focus to what is wonderful and joyful in life than to sit on the floor with your 1 year old or your 3 year old or both, and just be with them. Play, read, sleep, just do it where they are. Be with them. Don't talk at them, or tell them what to do, or even speak ...
by davemill
Wed Jan 11, 2017 3:11 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Not Reacting to Insults
Replies: 9
Views: 442

Re: Not Reacting to Insults

"You're such a stupid (whatever)." I reacted a bit to that just while typing it! It's hard to ignore that because you want to prove to them, to everyone else who heard it, and indeed to the whole world that the insult is unfair and untrue. So take a deep breath, meditate or listen to Tolle, then con...
by davemill
Sat Jun 13, 2015 10:21 am
Forum: General Eckhart Tolle Discussion
Topic: ET Audio Books-better than the print versions?!
Replies: 4
Views: 1036

ET Audio Books-better than the print versions?!

It's funny. I discovered Tolle via Audible, where I got The Power of Now for free. I later bought the book, but found it difficult to read. Since then, I've bought all his books, but seldom read them. But I listen to the audio books all the time! Absolute favorite: Practicing the Power of Now . #2: ...
by davemill
Sun Jun 29, 2014 5:38 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Automating presence in daily life
Replies: 10
Views: 517

Re: Automating presence in daily life

Plumcake, I highly recommend the TED Talk: David Steindl-Rast: Want to be happy? Be grateful Topic: Moment by moment awareness tool; speaker uses it for gratitude and happiness, which are awesome; also obviously applicable to now presence. -Dave That's a wonderful video! Thank you for posting it. H...
by davemill
Wed May 28, 2014 4:37 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: To stop the voice or watch?
Replies: 11
Views: 613

Re: To stop the voice or watch?

Awareness of thought, even if it doesn't stop, is very satisfying. So there is no need to make stopping thought into a goal. The thoughts are there for you to enjoy, as long as you are aware of them, and not lost in them. :) In my case, it's nearly binary: either the thoughts are under my direction...
by davemill
Wed May 28, 2014 12:11 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: To stop the voice or watch?
Replies: 11
Views: 613

Re: To stop the voice or watch?

Interesting: Phil says watch the inner voices and they will disappear; Ashley says ignore the inner voices and they will disappear. ET has written extensively on this topic. I often give Practicing the Power of Now as a gift to friends who want to silence the voice. Simply become the Watcher, obser...
by davemill
Sat May 17, 2014 1:28 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Helping a depressed teen
Replies: 45
Views: 2194

Re: Helping a depressed teen

Sometimes, I will make my point, then leave him to rage to himself. So you make YOUR point ... then you let him with his rage ... ... what is the current 'score' by now ? ?? I'm the newbie here, but I think Phil is saying that making a point while your son is raging is just your ego/pain body battl...
by davemill
Thu May 15, 2014 10:00 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Paying for spiritual growth
Replies: 4
Views: 361

Re: Paying for spiritual growth

I'm feeling kind of disappointed and i don't want this to affect my spiritual growth,because i really resonate with his teachings. :( Eckhart Tolle and the people who produce his material have to eat. I personally am thankful that none of his books are advertisements for other books or seminars, li...
by davemill
Thu May 15, 2014 3:49 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Helping a depressed teen
Replies: 45
Views: 2194

Re: Helping a depressed teen

Seems to me that the only 'thing' we can 'do' is love ... not trying to make her do what you would like her to do (your own 'projections') ... and help her whenever it is possible, in very concrete situations ... with such a loving and caring attitude, you won't 'lose' her, she will not get away fr...
by davemill
Thu May 15, 2014 3:20 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Helping a depressed teen
Replies: 45
Views: 2194

Re: Helping a depressed teen

And, if anger erupted so be it, we learned to be each other's 'safe place' where no offence would be taken and held against the other; if frustration at the distance between our reality and expectations exploded, so be it, we cleaned up the mess afterwards; and if tears fell - this was really sweet...
by davemill
Thu May 15, 2014 3:09 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Someone help me please...
Replies: 35
Views: 1920

Re: Someone help me please...

I don't really think I'm in any condition to play guitar right now... I haven't picked it up this whole year. The desire isn't really there anymore. The only thing that I ever wanted to be able to do was make music. Music excites me more than anything. Whenever I try to make music though I get even...
by davemill
Thu May 15, 2014 2:58 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Ego And Self-Promotion
Replies: 5
Views: 418

Re: Ego And Self-Promotion

SamDaviesCoach wrote: I'm a self-employed coach and want to promote myself, but feel conflict: how can I self-promote in a way that isn't egoic.
Small tip to start: Talk about your customers when you promote: talk about "you" and not "I". Make it all about their issue, their life, their potential.
by davemill
Mon May 12, 2014 7:12 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Relationships: Physical and Sexual Attraction
Replies: 26
Views: 1784

Re: Relationships: Physical and Sexual Attraction

All you're doing is looking for a mate that will stimulate within you the strongest desire to procreate. If this isn't natural, I don't know what is! And as the desire to procreate fades? I don't know what ET would say, but David92506 has recently met someone who, "...is the nicest person I've met....
by davemill
Mon May 12, 2014 7:09 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Relationships: Physical and Sexual Attraction
Replies: 26
Views: 1784

Re: Relationships: Physical and Sexual Attraction

I've been dating, mostly using various online dating sites, and I have met so many women who are full of drama, they talk my right ear off, short tempered, critical, sarcastic, married, etc. It sounds like you know what you don't like. I finally meet someone who is the nicest person I've met. She i...