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by jtightlips21
Wed Jul 29, 2020 3:20 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Is there anything collective about enlightenment
Replies: 1
Views: 164

Is there anything collective about enlightenment

It seems like many think of enlightenment is something the individual achieves. But this seems to create a new form of duality where people can be divided into the conscious and the unconscious. Yet this seems to be a common idea in the east and west. Like the idea of the Bodhisattva's declining Nir...
by jtightlips21
Tue May 12, 2020 9:37 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Dealing with unconscious family members
Replies: 2
Views: 683

Re: Dealing with unconscious family members

My take is that leaving toxic situations is fine. This reminds me of how in the bible, there are teachings of both keeping good company and not resisting the enemy. So I would say this conflict is nothing new. However it is hard to make a complete judgment without having all the information and not ...
by jtightlips21
Sun May 10, 2020 9:01 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How can I detach from anger when I hate anxiety/depression
Replies: 15
Views: 3480

Re: How can I detach from anger when I hate anxiety/depression

I had been observing many disturbing dreams I have been having the last few nights, and have noticed this consistent theme where I have these desires that I cannot fulfill, or get watered down dull fulfillment where its more desirable to long for something than to have the desire fulfilled. I have n...
by jtightlips21
Mon May 04, 2020 11:18 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Does climactic thinking serve any good purpose
Replies: 3
Views: 592

Does climactic thinking serve any good purpose

By climactic thinking, I would best explain this as the tendency to anticipate a particular event in hopes of some particular moment in the future. The best example I can think of is that there is so much hype leading up to Christmas day, and the hype for Christmas seems to be more enjoyable, while ...
by jtightlips21
Fri Apr 24, 2020 4:16 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Angry about having feelings of Shame
Replies: 3
Views: 1534

Re: Angry about having feelings of Shame

I did some research on the matter of Shame, and have come to the conclusion that Shame is an unworthiness sentence due to someone elses disapproval. This seems to be the nature of the Honor/Shame mindset to be shamed through being disapproved by another. I find that the existence of something radica...
by jtightlips21
Sun Mar 15, 2020 11:11 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Dualistic thinking and the fragile nature of victory
Replies: 0
Views: 1712

Dualistic thinking and the fragile nature of victory

As we probably know well, when it comes to the ego, it sees things in terms of win/lose, good/bad, strong/weak, in/out, or just about any either/or worldviews. What I have noticed is that dualistic thinking may have a false sense of pleasure, purpose, power or righteousness. I had thought about how ...
by jtightlips21
Sat Nov 16, 2019 10:55 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Angry about having feelings of Shame
Replies: 3
Views: 1534

Angry about having feelings of Shame

I'll get right to the point, but I have some underlying shame, and I am angry that it is there, as I do not believe it should be there or want it there. Part of the frustration is that the shame seems to come from memories of being intentionally wronged if I did not do something they wanted me to do...
by jtightlips21
Wed Nov 06, 2019 12:08 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Is getting sick of dehumanizing ideologies a sign of a spiritual awakening
Replies: 0
Views: 3253

Is getting sick of dehumanizing ideologies a sign of a spiritual awakening

I dont know if I really hate dehumanizing ideologies, or just hate any ideologies that are against anything I particularly value, and/or impose something I do not care for. I find that I hate ideologies such as A) authoritarianism where one is expected to give their whole will to another or system, ...
by jtightlips21
Sat Jun 22, 2019 5:02 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Uncertainty with my individuality
Replies: 2
Views: 1720

Uncertainty with my individuality

Hopefully this title is not misleading, but I find within myself that when I have this uncertainty with having individuality, I find myself more attached to the ego. I had done some observations, and I have noticed that I hate when people dont "Live and let live" or embrace their individuality. The ...
by jtightlips21
Mon May 13, 2019 2:48 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Is the ego a necessary process of adulthood and maturity
Replies: 7
Views: 2296

Re: Is the ego a necessary process of adulthood and maturity

I have begun to wonder if the ego is used to suppress the painbody
by jtightlips21
Sun Feb 03, 2019 8:25 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How do I get past emotional dependence on parents
Replies: 0
Views: 2992

How do I get past emotional dependence on parents

First off, I have a good relationship with my parents, and I have functional independence. I still find I care what my parents think, get offended if they disagree with me, and still feel guilt if I do something without them. I know for sure that this is not my parents, and all me. I find myself bot...
by jtightlips21
Wed Dec 26, 2018 7:53 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Difficulty with moral grey area
Replies: 6
Views: 2067

Re: Difficulty with moral grey area

I had an interesting insight on presence. Being present is not about favoring ones current circumstances over past or future ideals. Since all decisions are made in the present, change is present based. All memory and anticipations exists in the present while all concepts of past or present are just...
by jtightlips21
Thu Dec 06, 2018 8:28 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How can I handle unpleasant emotions
Replies: 3
Views: 1155

Re: How can I handle unpleasant emotions

I find that any emotions of helplessness and nihilism are the most difficult. For some reason, I have noticed this attachment to anger, only because it feels empowering and strong. Then I thought back and remembered how there were times where I felt utterly helpless against nihilistic forces, and co...
by jtightlips21
Tue Dec 04, 2018 6:26 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Is the ego a necessary process of adulthood and maturity
Replies: 7
Views: 2296

Is the ego a necessary process of adulthood and maturity

It seems like much we associate with Childhood seems ego transcendent, such as their ability to be in the present, non-duality, wonder, non-judgment and a sense of wholeness. While adulthood is associated with egoic traits of skepticism, judgment, concern for time and a sense of separateness.
by jtightlips21
Thu Nov 29, 2018 2:10 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: How can I handle unpleasant emotions
Replies: 3
Views: 1155

How can I handle unpleasant emotions

I find this is what causes overthinking for me. I use thoughts to suppress feelings that I dont really want to be there, and then overanalyze the feelings, or want to blame others or my environment for negative feelings. I find I become resentful towards people over times they had acted in a shaming...