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by Seancho
Fri Sep 07, 2007 10:02 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: resisting and sexual attraction
Replies: 65
Views: 6373

Ok, so you have that perfect moment of love with that perfect woman. The ideal feeling of love and oneness. Its all perfect and beautiful in that future ideal moment.

That sounds great. Youve got it all. So what then is the problem?
by Seancho
Fri Sep 07, 2007 9:04 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: resisting and sexual attraction
Replies: 65
Views: 6373

Looks like BrahmanEternal's in luck. Who would have suspected that we have our very own dating guru in the versatile babe-magnet, Seancho? :D Thank you for that glowing endorsement JD. How silly, I forgot all about my previous incarnation as Love Guru! You are quite right, what our friend needs is ...
by Seancho
Fri Sep 07, 2007 7:19 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: resisting and sexual attraction
Replies: 65
Views: 6373

Otherwise it's down to Seancho's rap, which is true enough from that lofty perspective. :) Ha! :D Which is the lofty perspective, the natural 'real life' animal desire to find sex and companionship, or the tales that the mind starts spinning about how I 'must' find one to love, or my life 'shoudnt'...
by Seancho
Fri Sep 07, 2007 6:12 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: resisting and sexual attraction
Replies: 65
Views: 6373

The problem is you know it can be better, pain can be gone, you can even feel good, and your stuck and stuck in this same position over and over again, its just driving me nuts. There you go! You see the problem! Look at this, look at what you are saying. Isnt your mind is creating an entirely sepa...
by Seancho
Tue Sep 04, 2007 10:27 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Please help a newbie get a grasp on becoming more patient
Replies: 9
Views: 1234

Be patient with your impatience.
by Seancho
Mon Sep 03, 2007 10:56 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How can I use POW to fight anxiety in meeting new people
Replies: 18
Views: 2281

Approval, approval approval. You want it. You think you need it. Like a drug. And when you go to a party, there are lots of people there who can either give you your drug or take it away. The feeling of a roomful of eyes all deciding in a moment if they approve of you or not? Terrifying! It's an ill...
by Seancho
Mon Sep 03, 2007 8:51 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Marshall Rosenberg and NVC
Replies: 11
Views: 1214

Arent we just making ourselves crazy by believing that we 'need' anything from other people? How can we relax and enjoy other people at all, much less love them, as long as we go around believing that we need things from them? Or that we need them to act or be a certain way? Needing sounds like addi...
by Seancho
Mon Sep 03, 2007 10:52 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: pain body questions
Replies: 13
Views: 2099

Why not just make friends with your pain body?
by Seancho
Mon Sep 03, 2007 10:47 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: New Member: Can't get the mind noise out of my awareness
Replies: 10
Views: 1384

Alan Watts used to say that trying to quiet your mind is like trying to calm choppy water with a stick. Cant be done. All you can do is calmly wait for the water to settle. The mind is like a dog that barks all night. Every time you yell at it to shut up, you just encourage it to keep barking. The d...
by Seancho
Tue Aug 28, 2007 2:34 am
Forum: Anthony de Mello
Topic: Anthony Demello
Replies: 39
Views: 17589

What a subversive, that de Mello! Extraterrestrial agent provocateur disguised as a humble Jesuit. :) Those poor people. They think they are getting advice on how to pray from a cheerful pious priest. Instead, they get their whole lives pulled out from under them. And hes so nice about it. Its even ...
by Seancho
Mon Aug 27, 2007 10:47 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Feeling kind of good after verbal conflict?
Replies: 10
Views: 1734

Interesting. In extreme cases, fear can put you into the now. People saving babies from fires, people facing firing squads, road accidents. In those life-or-death situations, you always hear people saying that time stops and something else takes over. I dont know if your average blow to the self-ima...
by Seancho
Mon Aug 27, 2007 2:29 am
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: The mother of thought
Replies: 6
Views: 1406

I agree, and think about it in this simple way: The problem is not thought, but believing thought. We think our thoughts are real. And that makes life a constant problem. A struggle. A battle. A horror movie. But thoughts are just images. Not real. Remember how disturbing horror movies were when you...
by Seancho
Thu Aug 23, 2007 11:27 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: It's pioneer stuff !
Replies: 36
Views: 5300

I think you do begin to know, little by little. Clues start appearing that lead to the conclusion that something isnt quite right. The big one is....why does this same problem keep appearing in my life? Time after time. As if Im a tragic figure in some kind of opera. Or, why do I keep making that mi...
by Seancho
Thu Aug 23, 2007 2:57 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: What of men?
Replies: 45
Views: 4342

You dont sound sorry phoggy, you sound angry. And look, you are reading this post. Why? OK. Before this escalates too far, I invite anybody who is actually mad at me at this point to go back and re-read what Ive written in this thread and ask yourself if you really think I've seriously meant a singl...
by Seancho
Thu Aug 23, 2007 2:15 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: What of men?
Replies: 45
Views: 4342

Yoodat, I totally agree. Women are indeed needy and flighty. Very insightful. They need to learn to speak a man's language! Right!

One day women will learn that their affection for men should be unconditional. Hopefully in time for my dinner!