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by citronella49
Tue Dec 23, 2008 1:09 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2820

Re: I need you to tell me you like me

Above all accept what's there and never judge yourself in any way. This is the part that I think is a little crazy... I have to judge myself... If I don't judge myself I wont know if Im doing the right thing or the wrong thing... I wont know if Im making the best decisions... I need to reflect on m...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 23, 2008 1:06 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: How do you deal with pent up resentment and negative feeling
Replies: 13
Views: 1607

Re: How do you deal with pent up resentment and negative feeling

So, it sounds like the painbody never goes away, you just learn how to suppress it...? Do I understand correctly? Cause I thought I could make it go away and make it stop... or is that just what happens after you learn how to suppress it totally?
by citronella49
Mon Dec 22, 2008 4:06 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Are expectations bad?
Replies: 6
Views: 943

Re: Are expectations bad?

How so?
by citronella49
Mon Dec 22, 2008 4:05 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How do you deal with pent up resentment and negative feeling
Replies: 13
Views: 1607

Re: How do you deal with pent up resentment and negative feeling

yes, but the painbody is not something easily tacked down and examined, at least not for me, its always moving and much too strong for me at times, and parts of it are always hiding... maybe Im just making this unnecessarily difficult
by citronella49
Mon Dec 22, 2008 3:58 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Self Defense
Replies: 11
Views: 1755

Re: Self Defense

How can you know which path will lead to less suffering before you take it?
by citronella49
Mon Dec 22, 2008 3:56 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2820

Re: I need you to tell me you like me

1. Which colour does the pain have 2. Which amout of water would be needed to cool it 3. If is had a form, which one would it take 4. On a scale of 1 to 10, how bad does it feel. stefan I just tried this... the pain was red, I dont know how much water it would take to cool it, its too hot, water tu...
by citronella49
Mon Dec 22, 2008 3:50 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2820

Re: I need you to tell me you like me

citronella49, I hope this will help with the emotional turmoil. The teacher I went to who taught ET said that whenever I'm overwhelmed with feelings of guilt, fear, pain, despair or whatever, to find the emotion in my body, observe it, and to finesse it.. As in to see if the feeling is hot, or cold...
by citronella49
Mon Dec 22, 2008 3:44 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Why does reading this stuff is making me hate myself more?
Replies: 4
Views: 467

Why does reading this stuff is making me hate myself more?

This is a terrible post. I have asked several questions and gotten several great answers, but its all too much for me. I have hated myself and having a happy life for as long as I can remember, and I dont know why. I love the idea of peace and happiness, but has soon as it enters my life I hate it, ...
by citronella49
Fri Dec 19, 2008 1:47 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Judgment
Replies: 24
Views: 1783

Re: Judgment

If you recognize you are doing this, then you can also choose not to do it. When someone makes an observation you can simply choose not to judge it. Just let their observation be. Ok, but if I have already noticed that I have judged an observation then I can't not do it cause I have already done it...
by citronella49
Fri Dec 19, 2008 1:39 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2820

Re: I need you to tell me you like me

you have to make your mind surrender to what is. Because You are what is. I wonder what you mean by "make your mind" by make do you mean force? Cause right now it feels like I am forcing myself to surrender... or at least just chill out and let stuff pass... but that doesn't seem to last very long....
by citronella49
Thu Dec 18, 2008 4:05 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Judgment
Replies: 24
Views: 1783

Re: Judgment

Yes, many people leap from a fact to a judgement quickly. So is there a way for people not to jump from fact to judgment? I do this a lot... people make observations and I make judgments about those observations in my head and then I get angry... cause I assume they also made the same judgments... ...
by citronella49
Thu Dec 18, 2008 3:48 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Self Defense
Replies: 11
Views: 1755

Re: Self Defense

I would like to think that if someone attacked me or someone around me that I would protect myself or that other person and do what ever I had to do to make sure that the attacker cant get back up when I am finished... even if that means death... I mean that would be sad to kill someone, but they sh...
by citronella49
Thu Dec 18, 2008 3:37 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: How do you deal with pent up resentment and negative feeling
Replies: 13
Views: 1607

How do you deal with pent up resentment and negative feeling

I have small to large breakdowns from time to time, and after each one I feel 'better'... not sure if its really better, but I tend to feel a bit more positive for a while... but it always fails... eventually my negative feelings, especially resentment for things not being the way I think they shoul...
by citronella49
Thu Dec 18, 2008 3:32 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Are expectations bad?
Replies: 6
Views: 943

Are expectations bad?

So, I was a middle school teacher, and everything I read said something like: If you have high expectations for a student they will perform better because they will aim for your expectations... so in pedagogical literature high expectations are a good thing... But lately I have noticed how my high e...
by citronella49
Thu Dec 18, 2008 3:11 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2820

Re: I need you to tell me you like me

I haven't been back all week, sorry, I wasn't ignoring... just afraid to look... I know there is truth here, and I know I need a fundamental change... its just not easy. But thank you all for the responses, I have too much to think about... sigh, and thinking is apparently not what I am supposed to ...