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by citronella49
Wed Dec 10, 2008 12:26 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2582

Re: I need you to tell me you like me

Dearest citronella, Home is inside you. You are always home. Everything around you is also home. See your home. Enjoy your home. Love your home. Be home. You perceive your problems to be unsolvable, outside you, attacking you. They are not only not outside you, they are not inside you either. They ...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 7:01 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Having a hard time with a close friend.
Replies: 17
Views: 1047

Re: Having a hard time with a close friend.

apologize. Yup, apologize. (You may say: "apologize for discussing the most profound truth in life?!?!?") Yes, apologize...for not being loving. Love is something others feel. You may believe you are "sending out love." But the acid test is "Is it being received as love?" The answer for your friend...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:55 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Having a hard time with a close friend.
Replies: 17
Views: 1047

Re: Having a hard time with a close friend.

The closer you are the more space you must give. Remember you don't need your friends approval to live in the now. Try exercising a quality no when your friend becomes rude and the drama could be two pain bodies feeding on each other. whats a "quality no?" I agree with what you say, it make sense, ...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:49 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Having a hard time with a close friend.
Replies: 17
Views: 1047

Re: Having a hard time with a close friend.

Onceler wrote: Breathe in the rudeness. Breathe out presence and awareness. It is your teacher.
Thats like breath in poison, breath out pure oxygen... is that really possible? Can all people really do it... effortlessly, as it sounds like you do?
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:42 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"
Replies: 16
Views: 1361

Re: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"

Here is an important and revealing view of forgiveness: http://www.learningtoforgive.com/steps.htm hello, Thank you for that link, it is helpful, but there is something that seems contradictory, so maybe I don't really understand it. 6.Give up expecting things from other people, or your life , that...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:33 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"
Replies: 16
Views: 1361

Re: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"

The key is always to focus on what little it is that I have control over. I just wanted to say thats like my favorite thing I have read in ages, I think Im gunna get it tattooed on my hand! The key is to vibrate more and more a frequency of peace, and then what is not peace will leave me. Now of co...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:23 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Can staying in the now cause more conflict?
Replies: 8
Views: 1223

Re: Can staying in the now cause more conflict?

The good news is that as you become more and more awake, you'll find that your sense of identity undergoes a radical transformation and you'll discover that you already have everything you need to experience a deep inner joy and peace. Your sense of wellbeing and completeness certainly won't depend...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:15 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: I need you to tell me you like me
Replies: 32
Views: 2582

I need you to tell me you like me

Im just so tired of my life. times like this I feel there is nothing I want that I can have.... but I always feel that way cause I am perpetually unhappy with my station in life...my parents have been listening to this crap from me for years, and when I read that "A New Earth" book it helped me see ...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 2:54 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"
Replies: 16
Views: 1361

Re: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"

Your issue is that think others should be sorry and say "I'm sorry"; and you are upset when they don't. You suffer because others do not conform to YOUR wishes. This is YOUR issue. Your absolutely right, this is my issue... sigh... as sick and tired as I am of being the one with all the problems, I...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 2:35 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"
Replies: 16
Views: 1361

Re: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"

I refuse to argue with my wife- what I have say ,if I have something to say -is done with softness. Try to find a place of stillness. What ever you have to discuss can be done in a calm manner-I mean everything. This may seem difficult at first,but just allow it to happen. It works for me. hi, so e...
by citronella49
Tue Dec 09, 2008 12:57 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"
Replies: 16
Views: 1361

Re: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"

I would echo SoulSeeker, BK is wonderful, as is "the work." But something else struck me...you say: my long long long term bf The extra "longs" in that sentence make me wonder how happy you are with the relationship... Namaste, Andy Oh, Im happy with my relationship, just wanted to emphasize that t...
by citronella49
Mon Dec 08, 2008 12:55 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"
Replies: 16
Views: 1361

being present after a fight without "I'm sorry"

Im going to avoid telling too much of "my story" because I know I identify with it already too much. But after a fight with my long long long term bf when he says hurtful things he rarely says "Im sorry" and he will never take responsibility for the fight... this always upsets me, but I have to get ...
by citronella49
Mon Oct 20, 2008 6:31 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Can staying in the now cause more conflict?
Replies: 8
Views: 1223

Can staying in the now cause more conflict?

Hello, A few months ago I started reading A New Earth and I'm almost finished with it. However, I have been applying some of the ideas in the book in my life. Namely things like staying in the now, and shaking things off (like the ducks shaking the feathers), saying maybe and avoiding judgment and t...