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by far_eastofwest
Fri Aug 15, 2014 12:00 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Raising children mindfully
Replies: 8
Views: 1162

Re: Raising children mindfully

Words have effect on how you communicate. (self talk) To give the kids an Order..... well I would rather Make a request or appoint a task or ask them to do something. Kids can't respect privacy as they don't really understand the concept (little locks on doors are helpful there). Quiet time is good....
by far_eastofwest
Wed Aug 13, 2014 3:32 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men
Replies: 38
Views: 6120

Re: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men

from the very dependant person that i was, i've become extremely independent now You have see sawed One extreme to the other. If you find someone compatable you will be able to do 'whatever you want' as you will have similar values. So it may be time to define 'whatever you want'. Clearly. "in a re...
by far_eastofwest
Wed Aug 13, 2014 2:56 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Raising children mindfully
Replies: 8
Views: 1162

Re: Raising children mindfully

Was going to answer.... but firstly, how old are the kids? boys or girls or both?
How long have you and your partner been together? How often are the kids at your house (full time/weekends etc)
:)
by far_eastofwest
Fri Jul 11, 2014 8:10 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Advise on how to deal with hard life situations
Replies: 16
Views: 1453

Re: Advise on how to deal with hard life situations

Single mothers and the elderly both have the highest rates of loneliness. Loneliness has nothing to do with the number of people around you (i've studied this stuff) but having people who you can connect with. Kids may be 'company' but its inappropriate to see them as peers to share stuff with on an...
by far_eastofwest
Sat Jun 14, 2014 2:07 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Don't know how to forgive, never have + extreme rage
Replies: 12
Views: 1291

Re: Don't know how to forgive, never have + extreme rage

Well paying back (doing something to hurt others to make yourself feel better) is very common, so you're not alone.... but its also very dysfunctional. (that is what bullying is based on). Bottling up anger (stuffing it down) is ineffective. Blowing up is also ineffective, your body gets flooded wit...
by far_eastofwest
Tue Jun 10, 2014 10:54 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Dealing with my very unconscious, high temper dad
Replies: 35
Views: 6422

Re: Dealing with my very unconscious, high temper dad

Interesting, a couple of things, saying 'nothing', being calm/still with a very aggressive person can be seen by them as an act of hostility against them. If the person is also tending towards physical abuse or has hit out in the past this may well be something that tips them over the edge to physic...
by far_eastofwest
Thu Jun 05, 2014 11:08 am
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Struggling with surrendering
Replies: 12
Views: 1850

Re: Struggling with surrendering

Headphones with an mp4 attached with an audio book (booksshouldbefree is the website, you can download Walden to start, its good) or nice music (or some really bad gangster rap, whatever). And maybe change your internal dialogue from the 'this isn't fair' one to a "this is a noisy place at times". T...
by far_eastofwest
Mon Mar 24, 2014 12:37 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: The Catalyst
Replies: 160
Views: 7704

Re: The Catalyst

I had an alcoholic physically abusive father growing up who I idolised. My childhood and most of my adult life was full of intense pain. It was not until I had drank myself to complete clarity one evening that I had ever experienced a moment free from suffering. You may say that from that moment I ...
by far_eastofwest
Wed Mar 19, 2014 1:21 am
Forum: Awakening / Spiritual Enlightenment / Truth-Realization
Topic: THIS MOTHERFUCKING SHIT DOES NOT WORK!!
Replies: 13
Views: 2493

Re: THIS MOTHERFUCKING SHIT DOES NOT WORK!!

This man claims that he spent two years sitting on a fucking bench with pure joy..how is this shit possible ??? He says be aware of your thoughts and say ' Oh there is a pain body '..but I have to say this every 2 sec I go insane. Don't believe everything you read... I can write "for the last two m...
by far_eastofwest
Sat Mar 15, 2014 12:20 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Please Help! I'm can't stop talking to myself!
Replies: 6
Views: 901

Re: Please Help! I'm can't stop talking to myself!

Good to see that there has been a diagnosis and recommendations made. "sounds like" tourettes? Doesn't actually sound like that at all, sounds like a person who is very angry at past hurts and hasn't learnt to let go or separate past events and judgements of others (ie, you need an audience to feel ...
by far_eastofwest
Fri Mar 14, 2014 11:26 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Relationship advice
Replies: 6
Views: 655

Re: Relationship advice

Why not go the middle road? Keep in contact with this girl and go out for lunch or a movie together once a week and build up a friendship? It may be a good exercise in self control, not rushing forth on the feelings of that first attraction straight into a relationship. Something 'different' in this...
by far_eastofwest
Wed Mar 12, 2014 3:39 am
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Monday Morning Weekend report
Replies: 4
Views: 837

Re: Monday Morning Weekend report

A suggestion may be for you to have a bit of a daily planner going for the weekend. Ie. Daddy only time for say 2 one hour blocks where your wife does sole parenting and Mummy only time where you do it on your own for equal time And the rest is shared So both of you get a couple hours to do your own...
by far_eastofwest
Sun Mar 09, 2014 2:41 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: am I crazy?
Replies: 1
Views: 281

Re: am I crazy?

Doesn't sound like anything wrong with you, just doing something really truly boring - maybe try.. .... do something that is more fun than counting breathes... maybe gardening? Or anything you fancy really that is more exciting (won't be hard to top counting breaths so the bar is set pretty low). :-)
by far_eastofwest
Sat Mar 01, 2014 11:46 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Unequal relationship
Replies: 7
Views: 833

Re: Unequal relationship

One of the great things about growing up is... Autonomy to be able to make decisions, do your own thing, without restraints and restrictions from parents not go back to a controlled life in a 'love' relationship My daughter is 18, she tells me (since about age 16) that creepy old guys "dads age" (la...
by far_eastofwest
Fri Feb 28, 2014 5:48 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: Unequal relationship
Replies: 7
Views: 833

Re: Unequal relationship

how old are you? and how much is 'much older'