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by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 25, 2013 5:38 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Helping others
Replies: 4
Views: 827

Re: Helping others

Thanks, Onceler - it makes sense it's just that I need a reminder, or a kick in the shins to be able to be more present while with this friend. I can be present when I am alone, so I suppose this is the next step yet with her I go unconscious. Not quite because as I am giving her advice, I am also w...
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 25, 2013 4:29 pm
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Helping others
Replies: 4
Views: 827

Helping others

I just spent an hour listening to a friend complain about her life situation and I wished very hard with all my mind :mrgreen: how I wanted to be like ET and just listen quietly. I have noticed that in general conversation I find it easier to just let others chatter roll over me. But this time, I co...
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 25, 2013 3:14 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How do I make peace with being single?
Replies: 99
Views: 5808

Re: How do I make peace with being single?

Isn't ego all about fear, power and competition? I really don't think it is possible to love someone if the ego is involved.
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 25, 2013 6:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Romance and the Ego
Replies: 87
Views: 12101

Re: Romance and the Ego

Ah, yes those expectations. Perhaps that's why in the old days, people got married before getting involved. There was a firm commitment made in front of the community, family and God or judge so that if one party didn't live up to the "rules of the game", there were serious community consequences. W...
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 25, 2013 2:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Romance and the Ego
Replies: 87
Views: 12101

Re: Romance and the Ego

May I join in this fascinating topic? In my opinion, all relationships are "play in form" with rules that we agree on up front or assume. There are different rules for friendships, work associations, family relationships and romantic relationships just as there are rules for games and sports. Someti...
by magicbutterfly
Fri Jul 19, 2013 4:37 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Breaking THROUGH! More confusion and more pain...
Replies: 9
Views: 603

Re: Breaking THROUGH! More confusion and more pain...

I get the sense that you're trying to swim upstream. Let go and let the river take you where it will. Trust the river. Do nothing.
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 18, 2013 2:39 pm
Forum: Pain and Suffering
Topic: Schizophrenia
Replies: 37
Views: 5236

Re: Schizophrenia

I remember what ET wrote about a woman on his bus who was talking to herself out loud and how he thought she was mad but then caught himself doing the same thing and realized that everyone talks to themselves except silently in our minds most of the time. There is a lot we don't understand about the...
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 18, 2013 8:27 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How do I make peace with being single?
Replies: 99
Views: 5808

Re: How do I make peace with being single?

Making peace with being single is one thing - yes, accept this as where you are right now. But you can still try to get out of the mud (as per Power of Now). I would suggest that you pay a woman to spend time with you. Find one who is willing to teach you about women and who is not on drugs or alcoh...
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 18, 2013 8:07 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: The Money Effect
Replies: 31
Views: 2776

Re: The Money Effect

There is a crippled man who sits every day in his wheelchair on the corner in my town with his hand out, looking sad. I used to give him my spare change and noticed that he remembered me the next time I passed by. But I didn't want to have to give him money every day, so I would cross the street or ...
by magicbutterfly
Thu Jul 18, 2013 7:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with lies and betrayal your thoughts please
Replies: 10
Views: 1283

Re: Dealing with lies and betrayal your thoughts please

Hi summer. I've come through something similar and what I learned was that I needed to forgive the person who did this to me. All of the people who have abandoned me beginning with my mother, actually as well as myself for not seeing it in time to prevent it. If you don't, you will keep attracting s...
by magicbutterfly
Sun Jul 14, 2013 3:23 am
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Community
Replies: 2
Views: 543

Re: Community

Yes, I realize that it's just a desire for a situation in the future and thus of the ego. I also know that all I need is here and now (this community, for example, for which I'm grateful). I watched ET's video on loneliness - he speaks of the Buddha being lonely and to accept the loneliness because ...
by magicbutterfly
Sat Jul 13, 2013 8:52 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Explaining your experience to those who have not felt it...
Replies: 54
Views: 3360

Re: Explaining your experience to those who have not felt it

I just mention a book that has changed my life, The Power of Now and that I have learned from the book about not living in the past or the future but in the present moment as much as possible. I also tell them about mindfullness and watching the space between thoughts. Most people get it, even the a...
by magicbutterfly
Fri Jul 12, 2013 2:52 pm
Forum: General Eckhart Tolle Discussion
Topic: Dealing with the pain body
Replies: 5
Views: 1248

Re: Dealing with the pain body

I think its quite rare to meet people that are actually aware they are in pain. Avoidance/denial of pain is so automatic and "normal" that the underlying pain is quickly overseen by the reaction brought up to cover it. How true. More likely they'll admit to anger, frustration, or sadness and blame ...
by magicbutterfly
Fri Jul 12, 2013 8:05 am
Forum: Personal Experiences
Topic: Community
Replies: 2
Views: 543

Community

I have a strong need for a community of like minded individuals and am grateful for this forum. Still, I want more. :D I want to be a part of a real community of people who are on the path of awareness and specifically those who follow the path of Eckhart Tolle. Does anyone here know of anything lik...
by magicbutterfly
Fri Jul 12, 2013 7:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love reflecting back
Replies: 4
Views: 2567

Re: Love reflecting back

ETD, similar to the one you provided, here is a quote I like on love, from Anthony De Mello Is it possible for the rose to say, "I will give my fragrance to the good people who smell me, but I will withhold it from the bad"? Or is it possible for the lamp to say, "I will give my light to the good p...