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by oak tree
Thu Mar 20, 2014 2:50 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Girls - being Cheeky - what is conscience ?
Replies: 1
Views: 327

Re: Girls - being Cheeky - what is conscience ?

Hi HeartVsEgo, I suggest you relax and simply be yourself. Be genuine and natural in your interactions. Even if you change yourself to attract this girl and she likes you I don't see how you can be fully happy when you are pretending. Likewise, if the nice guy act is pretence you can drop it. You do...
by oak tree
Tue Mar 18, 2014 11:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: a new person and feelings
Replies: 8
Views: 1604

Re: a new person and feelings

I'm glad you have clarity now about the situation Cristina. :)

I'm a single female too and not that young, so I know how it feels to be alone! I think if we can be at peace within ourselves being alone will be more pleasant. And maybe some day a new relationship will come along. :)
by oak tree
Mon Mar 17, 2014 1:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: a new person and feelings
Replies: 8
Views: 1604

Re: a new person and feelings

I suggest if it feels right and natural in the moment you are with him then tell him how you feel. If not, then I suggest you wait. Its not clear at this point how the guy feels. Are you attached to the outcome? If so, I encourage you to drop the attachment. Also, I think it's a good idea to look wi...
by oak tree
Fri Mar 07, 2014 3:01 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Compassion
Replies: 63
Views: 3914

Re: Compassion

Great thread runstrails, I enjoyed reading the responses. Love Kathleen's quote "if they could do better they would". I'm reminded that this applies to myself also. Sometimes I find it easier to feel compassion for others than myself. I have noticed sometimes that I can have very compassionate thoug...
by oak tree
Fri Mar 07, 2014 2:39 pm
Forum: General Eckhart Tolle Discussion
Topic: Eckhart Contradicts Other Spiritual Teachings?
Replies: 74
Views: 9980

Re: Eckhart Contradicts Other Spiritual Teachings?

I remember watching an Eckhart video in which he speaks of how LoA type teachings and his teaching actually complement each other. He says his teachings are focused on an inward movement and LoA on the outward movement. He spoke of how after awakening people will continue to live in the world and ma...
by oak tree
Thu Mar 06, 2014 2:52 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: a new person and feelings
Replies: 8
Views: 1604

Re: a new person and feelings

Hi Cristina, My experience is that it's best to take a lighthearted approach to new encounters. To simply enjoy the interaction with them, without expectation. If you are open and relaxed they are more likely to want to spend time with you. I also suggest facing the pain of past disappointments . Pe...
by oak tree
Sun Dec 29, 2013 8:20 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Something very strange happened to me....
Replies: 20
Views: 3070

Re: Something very strange happened to me....

Ok, in that case I wouldn't try to explain myself to them. I hope you can meet some new friends who care about you and accept you as you are.
by oak tree
Sun Dec 29, 2013 5:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Something very strange happened to me....
Replies: 20
Views: 3070

Re: Something very strange happened to me....

It could be that the people who appear to be judging you are concerned for your wellbeing, maybe thinking about safety, stds, heartache etc... or they might be envious! What can you do but live your life as you see best. What you see as spontaneous and authentic behaviour another might see as reckle...
by oak tree
Sat Dec 28, 2013 6:57 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Do I sit and wait for enlightenment to happen?
Replies: 13
Views: 1594

Re: Do I sit and wait for enlightenment to happen?

Do you think it's a good idea to sit and wait? I don't know, everyones path seems to be different. In my early 20s I pretty much dropped out and decided to work towards enlightenment. In the end I felt very bored, trapped, frustrated and isolated from other people. After I got a job and started to i...
by oak tree
Fri Dec 27, 2013 7:31 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Eckhart Tolle TV is Expensive...
Replies: 14
Views: 1468

Re: Eckhart Tolle TV is Expensive...

I subscribed to ET TV for 6 months a few years ago. I was happy with what I received and considered it good value for money. However if anyone cannot afford it they are not missing out on anything.
by oak tree
Fri Dec 27, 2013 6:55 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Touching story
Replies: 2
Views: 414

Re: Touching story

Thanks arel. I found that story inspiring and touching.
by oak tree
Fri Nov 01, 2013 2:23 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Why do some people develop negative and disturbing thoughts?
Replies: 54
Views: 4580

Re: Why do some people develop negative and disturbing thoug

Possibly in childhood some people learned to repress their true feelings. When they wanted to get angry they didn't, maybe they weren't allowed to. Maybe when they felt sad they didn't show it, even pretended to be happy. I think somebody with alot of repressed emotion would be likely to have these ...
by oak tree
Fri Nov 01, 2013 1:48 pm
Forum: Questions
Topic: Can presence overcome biological drive?
Replies: 8
Views: 1431

Re: Can presence overcome biological drive?

I don't feel any urge to have children. Maybe it's because I became interested in spiriuality in my teens or that I've never really been in a happy relationship for long. I think at this stage in your life it might be a good idea to date for awhile. If you are in a loving relationship at some point ...
by oak tree
Wed Sep 18, 2013 12:43 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why is it painful to be with people?
Replies: 21
Views: 1774

Re: Why is it painful to be with people?

Ok. Its good that you are aware of the background unhappiness. It might be helpful for you to meet with someone who can work through this with you, such as a satsang teacher. If the unhappiness is intense and has been there a long time, facing it alone could be very challenging.
by oak tree
Wed Sep 18, 2013 12:10 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Why is it painful to be with people?
Replies: 21
Views: 1774

Re: Why is it painful to be with people?

Do you feel relaxed, at ease and peaceful when you are alone?
Possibly you find interactions painful because of some tension and uneasiness within you. Sometimes it can be subtle and you may not be aware of it.