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by Andreas
Thu Aug 21, 2014 7:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men
Replies: 38
Views: 8510

Re: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men

Let me say, you're an extremely intelligent person and i like the way you don't judge me - when i try to talk about these topics with real life friends they start labelling me - i hate it. Thanks for your kind words ;). You read my own thoughts. You asked me the same questions i often ask myself. I...
by Andreas
Wed Aug 20, 2014 4:26 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Open relationships
Replies: 78
Views: 13745

Re: Open relationships

Oh, by the way: Alex, will you tell us when you have talked to your husband (of course only if you feel comfortable with it)? I have to admit that I'm really curious about the outcome ;).
by Andreas
Wed Aug 20, 2014 4:23 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Open relationships
Replies: 78
Views: 13745

Re: Open relationships

Well this is correct and this has more to do with patriarchy than 'genetics' per se ... What I meant with "genetics" is basically the importance of monogamy for men from an evolutionary perspective. If a guy is fine with his wife having sex with others, it's less likely that she will end up having ...
by Andreas
Wed Aug 20, 2014 3:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men
Replies: 38
Views: 8510

Re: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men

I don't think stating that you want an open relationship is the solution. Don't get me wrong - I'm not opposed to open relationships, not at all. Actually, we're currently having a discussion on the topic which you might find interesting in another thread here in the forum: http://eckhart-tolle-foru...
by Andreas
Tue Aug 19, 2014 4:06 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Open relationships
Replies: 78
Views: 13745

Re: Open relationships

Thank you Phil, for your response and the additional interesting input on my point. I agree with you, that this is mainly shaped by the (patriarchal) structure of our society. A second, in my opinion minor reason probably is related to genetics: In the past, when there was no birth control, sexual i...
by Andreas
Tue Aug 19, 2014 4:00 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Open relationships
Replies: 78
Views: 13745

Re: Open relationships

I just want to add something referring to one part of your original question: "Is egoistic to want to have an open relationship?" For me, this question implies something which is quite typical but which (at least to me) makes no sense: The natural assumption, that the person who prefers an open rela...
by Andreas
Tue Aug 19, 2014 3:27 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: What does it mean to be a man?
Replies: 10
Views: 2052

Re: What does it mean to be a man?

Hm. I see the point in all the answers so far. Nevertheless, I think there was one other aspect in the original poster's question which has not been fully addressed: What is the difference between a boy and a man? Of course, in the end it's both just terms and shape - but still, this doesn't prevent...
by Andreas
Tue Aug 19, 2014 3:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men
Replies: 38
Views: 8510

Re: Love for freedom - i can't have relationships with men

So the topic of your thread is "Love for freedom - I can't have relationships with men". For me, it seems there are quite some different aspects behind your question. Since i found myself, and believe me i really got "awakened", from the very dependant person that i was, i've become extremely indepe...
by Andreas
Tue Aug 19, 2014 1:16 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from Germany
Replies: 4
Views: 1410

Re: Hello from Germany

Thanks everyone for the welcome :)! Hi Andreas, I for some reason never had the idea to search online for communities revolving around that . Haha I had that same thing 8) . It hit me one day that I could talk to people about Eckhart's ideas online and I stumbled on this wonderful place. I hope you ...
by Andreas
Tue Aug 19, 2014 12:44 am
Forum: Questions
Topic: I can´t get over her
Replies: 99
Views: 19215

Re: I can´t get over her

Wait a minute...that´s all just a story isn´t it? All of this doesn´t really matter. Wow, I feel so detached now. Wow! Congratulations :D! When just reading your story and, right afterwards, reading this realization you had 2 hours later, I was really able to feel the "click" in your head myself. A...
by Andreas
Fri Aug 01, 2014 2:53 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from Germany
Replies: 4
Views: 1410

Hello from Germany

Hi there, my name is Andreas, I'm living in Germany, and I've just discovered this forum some days ago. While I have known Eckhart Tolle's work already for some years, I for some reason never had the idea to search online for communities revolving around that ;). Anyway, after reading some of your p...