Spiritual Bypassing

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dijmart
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Spiritual Bypassing

Post by dijmart » Wed Dec 21, 2011 5:40 pm

Spiritual bypassing means using spiritual practices and/or beliefs to avoid painful situations, developmental tasks and emotional challenges. Then rationalizing that avoidance with spiritual language. He calls it dissociation is holy drag....


I found this interesting, it's 4:38 min. long.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwbJDNqP ... re=related
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Re: Spiritual Bypassing

Post by hanss » Thu Dec 22, 2011 10:42 am

I think this is VERY common...
"In today's rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Being."
(Eckhart Tolle)

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Re: Spiritual Bypassing

Post by damc » Sat Dec 24, 2011 12:22 am

Can you give an example of this? Give an example of behaviour which is called spiritual bypassing.

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Re: Spiritual Bypassing

Post by dijmart » Sat Dec 24, 2011 3:37 am

For example-Use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with painful feelings and unresolved wounds. Saying: "It's just an illusion" or "It's just your ego"......delivering minimizing one liners in response to someones pain with little feeling behind it. It's a way of avoiding painful feelings of your own and others. Other aspects of spiritual bypassing are numbing/repressing emotions, exaggerated detachment, anger phobia and weak boundaries.
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Re: Spiritual Bypassing

Post by damc » Sat Dec 24, 2011 2:33 pm

Thank you.

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Re: Spiritual Bypassing

Post by Ego Waffles » Wed Feb 01, 2012 3:16 am

I am concerned about this. I like Tolle's work, but it does leave me feeling like I am minimizing my past. Maybe calling all of my traumas "ego" and leaving it at that is not really bringing awareness to it? Perhaps cognitive psychotherapy has an important use that people should not bypass.


Here is another article I found:
http://integral-options.blogspot.com/20 ... ients.html

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Re: Spiritual Bypassing

Post by Sighclone » Mon Feb 06, 2012 7:07 am

John Welwood actually coined this term 30 years ago. A 2011 interview with him is about halfway down this page at his site:

It's a cop-out and a serious one.

http://www.johnwelwood.com/articlesandinterviews.htm

Andy
A person is not a thing or a process, but an opening through which the universe manifests. - Martin Heidegger
There is not past, no future; everything flows in an eternal present. - James Joyce

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