What are your views on masturbation and porn?

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What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by traveler » Sun Apr 22, 2012 9:05 pm

Hey there fellas :D I'm wondering what everybody's viewpoints are on masturbation and porn here. I've been looking around on the site "Your Brain On Porn," and still learning more about it, but i want to know your viewpoints on it. and also your direct personal experiences on the subject.

When I watch porn, and/or masturbate, I can't really tell if its something that should be done or not. I don't really see it as good or bad, but i'm kinda confused on this subject.
To me it seems that there is nothing wrong with masturbation in itself, and that it can be healthy during certain stages of development. But masturbating to porn is another subject, and something that i would like your perspectives on.

Could you guys answer the following:
1) What are your views on masturbating in general (without the use of porn or any external stimuli)?
2) What are your views on masturbating to porn?
3) In what ways has masturbating and/or stopping masturbation changed you, and shaped/influenced your life?

I would appreciate your input on this subject deeply for friends. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Much love and peace to you all<3
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by heidi » Mon Apr 23, 2012 12:40 am

1. Masturbation can be viewed as an hygienic act - keeping the pipes working and the energy flowing, get present in the doing, an exercise of inner body awareness.
2. Masturbation to porn creeps me out personally (but then again I am a woman), as it takes a simple divine conscious bodily clearing and includes identification with concepts and drama - like inviting an unknown guest to a very simple personal moment.
3. Masturbation in the doing or not doing has no big effect on my life. I am happy to have a great husband.

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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by Webwanderer » Mon Apr 23, 2012 1:04 am

It's like anything else. If you feel better in the action then enjoy. If not, consider what you do feel. I don't mean by that a physical feeling, but an emotional one. Everyone is unique. What is valuable to one may be detrimental to another. Pay attention to your feelings and let them guide you.

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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by snowheight » Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:12 am

Masturbate to pictures ... like on a computer ??? :shock:

wow ... you learn something new every day I guess ...
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by ZenDrumming » Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:48 am

snowheight wrote:Masturbate to pictures ... like on a computer ??? :shock:

wow ... you learn something new every day I guess ...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=72nrFIgFNB4

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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by eurovillle_was_nice » Mon Apr 23, 2012 2:49 am

this has got to be joke!

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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by alex » Mon Apr 23, 2012 8:00 am

I think it's a totally natural thing. I prefer it be an excersize of deep awareness, really going into the body and just feeling the sensations. I used to think sexy thoughts but now I don't, it's more pleasurable just purely experiencing it. I don't think watching porn really goes hand in hand with just being present and experiencing the sensations. Not my thang.. but whatever floats your boat, try it different ways maybe.

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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by Amritam » Fri Apr 27, 2012 3:07 pm

I like what Dr. Andrew Weil said on Larry King one night. He said, "Masturbation needs to come out of the closet! Everybody does it. It is a healthy way to experience orgasm." He also mentioned that if you have a partner and the partner is not in the mood, then masturbate.

I can't answer you about the porn issue. I don't like the way females are portrayed in porn and I don't like the way porn makes sex look dirty. Orgasm is a God-thing, you know.
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by braveheart » Sat May 19, 2012 1:23 am

1) What are your views on masturbating in general (without the use of porn or any external stimuli)?
2) What are your views on masturbating to porn?
3) In what ways has masturbating and/or stopping masturbation changed you, and shaped/influenced your life?

1) Relatively speaking, there's nothing wrong with masturbation and it's even good for your health. When you do it, don't believe your mind telling you it shouldn't be done. When you do it, you do it. Don't struggle about it as it's just reality happening, not different from anything else.
2) Relatively speaking, porn is a huge business that doesn't care if people get brainwashed by it and sex becomes an illness in modern society. Also, as everything else it's not about what you do but how you do it so it may be that some inspired porn can be found.
3) I just do it to relax and it hasn't changed my life in any way. It's just an activity that I do.

If you need to stop masturbating or watching porn it will come by itself. No need to be confused about it. Just do what you do.
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by rideforever » Mon May 21, 2012 3:27 pm

People who are saying that masturbation is fine, I think are responding to the heavy conditioning from the big religions who have discouraged it.

But once you get beyond that you can have a more open perspective on it.

Through porn/masturbation you train your mind for certain stimulus and this can result in a deep groove of harmful conditioning in your mind - when you meet a partner it will make life difficult for you. And of course these questions arise in a very atomised world where people find it hard to communicate, and everyone carries in their mind all sorts of Hollywood images of the perfect partner. Etching this conditioning deeper within your mind I am sure will make you unhappy.

Coupled with that, the modern high-tech porn is very very heavy, incredibly stimulating and your very physiology will also get trained and deeply grooved by this activity. Also very harmful, addictive, and damaging to your experience of the 'real' world.

Ideally you would have a partner, have sex, and sometimes it would be great, sometimes not, it would be just what it is. Sex would be part of your overall relationship and life.

We are bombarded with very harmful things these days, and many people suffer.

In short :

(a) feel no guilt or moral worries
(b) take steps to limit harmful things entering your mind - perhaps masturbation without porn
(c) do all you can to find a partner, remember they also need sex and are worried about themselves just like you - in truth it is a simple dance
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by h68 » Mon May 21, 2012 9:37 pm

I will join rideforever on this one

I do believe that masturbation alone is a biologic phenomenon, see the mention of "cleaning the pipe" above

On the other side, you should be aware that watching porn is printing slowly but surely a lot of attitudes, situations and so on in your brain, formatting in a very specific way your sex-related fantasies, desires.

One has to remember also that the porn industry has a guideline/ plan: to make you want more and more, to have you watch further and further, and that, just like Hollywood, it has a formatted definition of pleasure, a formatted definition of sexual acts and fantasies. I keeps your desires going more or less in the same direction and assure them to always have a product in the range of your needs.

That being said, I do think that there is another thing to consider regarding porn that one has to keep in mind: it "likes" to present sexual pleasure and satisfaction as an end, as a goal in itself (just like Hollywood likes to present you "love" as finding/hanging out/marrying the pretty young girl/boy, or to present you the "hero" as the one that is already right, that takes incredible risks and that gives a beat up to "the villain").

This kind of simplistic, one level approach brings you constantly back to the form, therefore giving back the control to the mind and the ego, that can only be temporarily happy, ie when feeling saturated with some form of pleasure/gratification.
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by rideforever » Tue May 22, 2012 2:14 pm

One further thing I wanted to say : the ENERGY that is rising in you when you have the urge is incredibly important - it is the sap of your lifestream within ... and it needs to be channelled - it's not optional; so if you don't masturbate you need to find another way of using this energy whether it be physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, or energetic - and I think there is some skill in connecting this powerful energy to other activities.
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Re: What are your views on masturbation and porn?

Post by traveler » Wed May 30, 2012 11:44 am

thank you so much every one for replying! my apologies for not responding in a timely manner. I gained some helpful insights here, and I'm very thankful to you all for writing your posts. Take care my friends :)

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