I'll put my 2 cents in on this one---
Yes, there is a lot of confusing messages, but I never studied "Advaita" and had not even heard of it until "the Neo-Avaita-non-duality" popularity mainstream over the last few years--- so, what I want to say is not about non-duality or Advaita---
I think it is not about the 'road' you take, but it is about the driver.
From what I have found, it is certainly not about finding emptiness---quite the opposite---It is about finding the fullness of Life---Everything-- It is about feeling alive and feeling peace and feeling like you have found Your Self again and the whole world becomes rich and meaningful and alive and wonderful again. And you understand things, you See What Is-- you don't even have to read or learn about or be taught.
And I say "again"
in that when you find your self, it is as if you have returned to the arms of a long lost loved one, someone missed very very much---you recognize in a way that feels
so wonderful as in "oh, yes, I remember you! You are Me!" I am home, I remember Me! I found you-- I remember this one I love, this one I thought I'd lost--
And this one that is you-- you are the Child who lived before the world was ---What a joy and relief it is--what a gift of Grace-- and you don't even have to win the deserving of it---no, I did not deserve this, it was by Grace alone---that my heart was given this--- I only told my self to stay with the Light, stay with Light, do not drop down---and then I was given this marvelous gift, I found Me as It found Me, I found me again, just this, my simple sweet me-- I am My Living second chance, born again--right here in the world, to Live Again--This time, now with My Self at the helm, I live rightly, this time Knowing who I am---
And not being afraid to speak up and say it-- I am that Child again, and she is the same one I remember that lived for a little while in the world as the tangible little girl in cowboy boots and twilling skirts-- so innocent and pure and She is Me once again, the re-discovery of My Self. It's not about getting to emptiness, it is about finding It All, feelings and depth and passion and love and strength and knowing -- and It is the most marvelous and wonderful thing to have happen-- Even better, when you thought you were supposed to lose something called an 'ego' or "I" or "me" ---and instead you lose nothing real at all---but you gain The All.
The only lose I saw was the lose of stupidity. That's it, that's all you will lose. That was Great! What A Joy that lose is.
And that happens 'as' you find Your Self---not before, not as a goal to achieve. We do not know our own stupidity, until it falls away---We don't know the wheat from the tares, so, it is not up to us to try to separate them while in the field.
We will know which is which at the Harvest.
As the old sailors know---You don't have to struggle with the barnacles: the barnacles fall off the ship without any effort when you sail your ship into the clear pristine waters. Just by being in the clear waters, docking there in the pristine water and letting that water do the work, the barnacles just fall off-- no scrapping and hard work involved.
Troubles fall away as you stay with the Light of Truth. They are only there for Good and to Awaken you to come home to Who You Really Are---Let the troubles be and be grateful for Life poking at you, nudging you into the Clear Waters that the Truth is God IS ALL That Is going on here, God is All That IS ---Everything is This Light of God's Being---and You are the very Living Light of This Eternal Light, The Living Awareness of This the One, Godhead All.
You, it's a surprise, but it turns out to be really all and only about You, finding Your Self just the way you remember, that Child is returning to you--- the one you always were and will forever be---a Real and True You, right here in the world, right here you come totally alive again. No 'non-duality' no nothing---just open and living again, free and unafraid and in Love---because the 'stupid' fell off, what is left is Pure and Innocent and can see, feel, and Know, Touch, and Be with The Living One, right here, right now, The All That I Am is the Life I Am and It is All That I Am and It is My (your) very own, personal knowing of the Livingness of this Whole Total, Infinite Being of This Living Presence of God That Is Life Itself.
One, there is Only One---You sail your ship into The Knowing This IS True and You will see for your self---You know It is True because You Exist---It is Perfect---How beautiful that nothing real is lost and all that God is is within You as your very own blessed Child Self, as your one and only self, the one you have always been--- the one God knows and will always know---just you, sweet simple, dear, precious you--- here just being you. Then you will know how to live here in the world, you will have all you need within you-- and you will know what is real and the reasons for and why this experience of this world just the way it is.
I over did it here with words--that was way over 2 cents
You are not finished, until you play in that meadow and live there. You can, you know. But only you can take yourself there.