I have always tried my best to be myself. If there is a way to be "more myself" then I do not know it.TemporalDissonance wrote:I can't say I know much about "The Game". There may be some interesting tips on picking up/meeting girls, but have you ever consider meeting girls and other people as yourself, without pretending to be someone or "playing games"? Perhaps that's where it points to why you can't accept being alone? You may not being honest and true to yourself and others.
That is a good question. Let me think. What things do I dislike about myself?TemporalDissonance wrote:This leads to the questions: Are you afraid of being yourself? Or being alone? Is there something you don't like about yourself? If so, can you accept or learn to love that part of yourself? From there, you may find the root of why you haven't been able to accept your situation. You may be looking to have someone in your life to distract or fill some void in you instead of accepting something that's needs to be faced.
One thing I feel very insecure about is masculinity. I do not feel like a "man". I feel like a big boy. That scares me. This has to do with several things:
* My physique (I feel scrawny, weak)
* My history (I lived with my parents until I was 25 and feel insecure about my degree of independence)
* My sexuality (I feel guilt over some of my sexual desires, and I fear I cannot satisfy a woman)
* My social skills (I feel I am not skilled enough to be a good friend or partner)
* and perhaps more things.
I don't think this is the root of my problem, though. This wasn't something I consciously worried about when I was younger. I only started worrying about my masculinity for the last couple of years, precisely because I fear I am not masculine enough to attract the girl(s) I want. Therefore, I suspect that this is a symptom of my longing for sex and relationship rather than a cause of it.