alex wrote:Thanks for the link - Am I a narcissist? Hmm - I had a fairly traumatic experience which caused some deep low self worth. It sent me on a trajectory of trying to find validation through what others think of me, trying to find acceptance, being 'normal'. Is that narcissism? I'm fairly aware of how I operate in this manner. I definitely know I've got some pretty dark and fucked up conditioning but I don't know for sure if it makes me a narcissist? I know I have empathy - I can't watch people or animals suffering, i cry easily seeing sad stuff.I spent an entire Christmas Eve once bawling thinking about the poor little trackers around the world that wouldnt even get dinner that night.
What do you think?
I don't know you, but doubt you're a narcissist. We all have narcissistic traits, for sure. We are human with a very limited, self focused perspective built in. I think it's interesting that we value anti-narcissism.....that we even try to be selfless, thoughtful, kind and ego- free. I think if we even begin to think beyond our self and our conditioned notions of ourselves at the center of the world, we are doing well.
We all know that spirituality can be very self involved, ironically. It can look, from the outside, that someone is totally self absorbed, and honestly I believe it's a danger. Classic narcissists commit acts of manipulation on others to get what they want. I don't think that most folks in the spiritual world do this (besides the occasional megalomaniac guru), but our absorption can lead to acts of omission.....not paying attention to those we love and those around us as we obsess on certain inner phenomenon.
Are you like Donald Trump?
Be present, be pleasant.