To which i responded with this guru quote. (Sort of a battle of the guru quotes!) :"Water is fluid, soft and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield.
As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard.
This is another paradox. What is soft is strong!"
As for the apparent Lao Tzu paradox above, movement is necessary to bring about change, and the 'overcoming' we're talking about is change. Naturally, that which is seen as movement (wind, water, even time) will be seen as the cause of change to that which is not fundamentally in motion. (rock) The rock is actually affecting the wind and water more than the reverse, as mountains form wind currents and the banks of a river direct the flow."All conundrums, all apparent riddles, paradoxes and contradictions subsist only in the split-mind base on subject-object relationship. They resolve themselves as soon as they are seen from the viewpoint of Totality."
Wind and water are in constant change, affected by forces of all kinds, so we could equally call them vulnerable and weak rather than strong compared to the rock. Paradox is a perspective, and while perspectives can be useful, they never become True in any ultimate sense, so they never actually become paradoxes.
The value of this wind/water/rock analogy is to point to 'yielding' as factor of change as it relates to human suffering, which is resistance. The analogy of natural forces bringing about physical change really has no relationship to the overcoming of suffering, because suffering is caused by resistance, and yielding is simply the negation of the resistance. It's not one force overcoming another, just the ending of all forcing.
The reason the issue becomes important is that mind has a tendency to adapt all spiritual concepts to serve illusion rather than reveal it. In the case of recent discussions, it's been the notion that the truth about free will can never be known because it is a paradox. This is mind's attempt to avoid looking too deeply into the matter. All illusions CAN be revealed because they are not some sort of ineffable Truth beyond mind, they're just ideas that haven't been looked at closely enough, with a willingness to see what's actually true.
Another way mind avoids challenging it's beliefs is to declare that the REAL spiritual way is to not think. Using the mind becomes a bad thing to do that would make Jesus roll over in his grave, and yet this is more likely the attempt to avoid truth rather than realize it. Using the mind to reinforce illusion through intellectualizing is not worse than doing the same through avoidance of engaging the mind to help reveal the illusory nature of it's own ideas.