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The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 9:45 am
by alex
Heya guys, just thought I would share a little realisation I had recently. When in the shower last night (odd these places that realisations hit us huh?) it became very clear to me that paradoxically the very best you can do for someone is to reliquish all mental and emotional attachments you have for them. It really is a case of if you love something set it free. When you have mental attachments to people, you project on to them, limit them in some way. By just being with someone and seeing with clarity what they truly are and where they are truly at you give them permission to also just be. There is an outward flow of unattached (true) love and attention.
Hmmm. The ego would scare the shit out of you about how wrong it is to let go of close personal attachments but it really is the birth of a much more wholseome and giving relationship.

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 1:46 pm
by Maiken
Alex,

You are absolutely right! Seems to me that presence has given me "fresh" relationships as well. Funny how you can even look at your parents in a different way when there is not the whole history coming into every moment. It is so wonderful.

By the way, I love your picture :)

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 7:53 pm
by Plorel
Giving the world and everyone in it the freedom to be exactly as they are is one of the greatest gifts one can present to the world. In a society where almost everyone is constantly trying to impress their self-image upon the world, meeting someone who has let go is a real blessing.

Thank you for your post : )

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 8:16 pm
by Elle
Thanx for the reminder Alex!!!!

@Plorel, your signature is just what I needed to contemplate on :)

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2011 2:47 pm
by Blenderhead
I don't know anything about relationships since I am too ugly, but I love some people in different ways and have to let go of my emotions sometimes because they serve no purpose. It's like being hungry in a place with no food, useless.

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2011 3:26 pm
by Webwanderer
Blenderhead wrote:I don't know anything about relationships since I am too ugly, but I love some people in different ways and have to let go of my emotions sometimes because they serve no purpose. It's like being hungry in a place with no food, useless.
If physical appearance is not your gift then it need not be a distraction in expressing other gifts inherent within you. We can pine away for what's not, or we can enjoy what is. One path leads to fulfillment the other to suffering. Everyone has the potential to express their true beauty of spirit. Know the truth in your essence and appearances will matter little.

WW

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2011 4:11 pm
by eurovillle_was_nice
Blenderhead wrote:I don't know anything about relationships since I am too ugly, but I love some people in different ways and have to let go of my emotions sometimes because they serve no purpose. It's like being hungry in a place with no food, useless.
Though example, I love that!

Tell me about your mind monologue, when you want something /one badly!

I have had similar challenges when I was young and still have momentum in me when it comes to vanity!

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2011 4:14 pm
by eurovillle_was_nice
alex wrote:Heya guys, just thought I would share a little realisation I had recently. When in the shower last night (odd these places that realisations hit us huh?) it became very clear to me that paradoxically the very best you can do for someone is to reliquish all mental and emotional attachments you have for them. It really is a case of if you love something set it free. When you have mental attachments to people, you project on to them, limit them in some way. By just being with someone and seeing with clarity what they truly are and where they are truly at you give them permission to also just be. There is an outward flow of unattached (true) love and attention.
Hmmm. The ego would scare the shit out of you about how wrong it is to let go of close personal attachments but it really is the birth of a much more wholseome and giving relationship.

Why do that Alex? I don´t think freedom is better than attachment. Do you?

;)

A bit of provocation, from "Agent Provocateour"

love

Nick

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Sun Sep 25, 2011 5:57 pm
by surfingisfun
So very true. Good words.

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2011 11:36 am
by alex
Why do that Alex? I don´t think freedom is better than attachment. Do you?
Nope, my mind usually doesnt think that freedom is better... I experience the old velcro thoughts quite often but I see through them mostly and the sting is less and less...
Why do that Alex?
Alls I know is I really dont know, cant stop this once its begun I dont think!

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2011 10:41 pm
by nanashi
Sometimes I like to play the bad guy :twisted:

What happens when you are on the receiving end of attachment? When someone is so mentally and emotionally attached to you, you sense that almost all action/non-action will cause a reaction of said person? What do you do if someone you love develops a mental addiction for you?

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2011 10:52 pm
by eurovillle_was_nice
alex wrote:
Why do that Alex? I don´t think freedom is better than attachment. Do you?
Nope, my mind usually doesnt think that freedom is better... I experience the old velcro thoughts quite often but I see through them mostly and the sting is less and less...
Why do that Alex?
Alls I know is I really dont know, cant stop this once its begun I dont think!
Well... cool !

I´m not sure sure I know how that "feels", it´s like this for me: "...oops I got sucked into attachment there, never mind it´s not important"

You mean like that ?

PS: Can´t stop what ?

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2011 12:45 am
by Natalie
Alex that is a very nice pic of you and your little boy. He is adorable.

Natalie

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2011 1:40 am
by alex
PS: Can´t stop what ?
The awakening process... the drive for the truth.

Thanks Nat, it's my favourite photo of us :) He's a bit of a cutie hey. It's so nice being able to spend so much time with such an innocent being, we have lots of laughs. xx

Re: The uselessness of attachments

Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 12:55 pm
by eurovillle_was_nice
alex wrote:
PS: Can´t stop what ?
The awakening process... the drive for the truth.
Have a nice trip Alex.

ET even considered suicide, I´m pretty sure that intensity is needed to reach breakout velocity, but who´s to tell right?

attachements will work against your process for sure.