Ok, I know nothing about Adya, so my reply here is not based on anything he says.
But, I have seen a lot of anguish happen when people get the idea that there is this thing called an ego that they must get rid of in order to find Peace and Happiness.
I think that is a mistaken concept. I think there is nothing to get rid of. It is really more of realizing 'who you really are'. Metaphorically speaking, think of leaves on a tree---When you 'awaken' it is more like you realize you are not a leaf independent of a tree. You are one with the tree. You don't get rid of the leaf, you just recognize you are actually the tree. You don't strip the tree of its leaves in order to become one with the tree, you are the tree itself as leaf.
You don't deny the leaves just because you realize you are the tree---No, now you enjoy being the very fullness of Your Being, which is this big beautiful, lovely, grand bountiful, ever blooming, everlasting Tree, Tree Am I. The Tree is not a Tree without Its leaves, of course. So we do not try to get rid of any part of the Tree. Yet, it is also good see that the leaves are not the Tree; the Tree is being the leaves.
So, we can see in this metaphor, that like Life, All Knowing Mind must complete Its Self as this array of individual self knowing perspectives
. Life completes Itself through the blooms of 'self knowingness' which is this sense of Me and You. Self awareness is what makes the total Wholeness of Divine Mind actually and factually Self-knowing. "We' are the completeness of God.
Like the leaf on the tree, 'you' or the sense of your self
as in 'ego' are not a separate or apart from the One Self, the One Mind, the All Inclusive Light I Am. You do not get rid of your self, you expand your view of your self. If we do let go of anything, we let go the mistaken
'single leaf unattached to tree' view.
The non-dualist is saying, one way or another, that there is Only One--- He is saying in all kinds of ways; That there is Only One Being, Only One Awareness, Only One Mind, Only One Ego. I Am Here as part of that Self Awareness. Life tells me that I Am HERE, so Here and Now is What I Am. Here and Now is our Awareness of Life and Life is being the Whole Tree. I can stand Here and say with all my own authority that I am One With Here and Now, and I cannot ever be separate from This Here That I Am (separate from the Tree).
(persons) would be in misery if it thought it was alone without any Tree being It---and many leaves (persons) do not see they are One with the Wholeness (holyness) of The Tree. Tree of Life Am I.
What do we get rid of? I think we just get rid of the mistaken idea, the false indoctrination, the intellectual dogma that says I have a mind of my own and I am alone and life is in me and its sad and messed up and missing something I cannot ever find. When, in the Light of Truth, the Whole Infinite Light of Life is That I Am and All I have Always been.
Or you could think about it from this angle: Where is this "me" that you think you must get rid of? If I am made of 90% water (and science says my body and my brain are actually 90% water) then where or how can a 'me' a 'self' be, in fact, a bag of water. Water, ever day salt water; if I was really
my body, then I would be nothing but water. Yet, I know I exist, I know I am, and I know all bodies are made of mostly water. So where or how does this sense of Self arise? A self is Here because I know I am here.
So, from this, I surmise the Self must be prior to the form, prior to the 'water' bag and "I am" not made of a water. You know you are not made of water. You know you are not a water bag
You know you are not made of matter. So what are you and where are you and how do you exist? You do
exist. You exist because (and I will say it my way) Existence is Self-Knowing Intelligence, It is Mind and It is the Only Identity Here. Life, Light, Truth, Reality, is God ---And God Is All That Is, All That Was, and All That Ever Will Be.
And as Jesus says in the Book of Thomas, The Lost Gospels: “Examine yourself, and learn who you are, how you exist, and what will become of you”. The true and genuine mystic will always direct you to go inward, to seek, so ask, "who am I" and inquire of your own true nature. And again, from the Gospel of Thomas, Jesus said, “He who has not known himself does not know anything, but he who has known himself has also known the depth of all”