I believe monogamy is a mind creation, it is an attempt to avoid the possible/probable suffering created through the attachment to another being in a sexual/romantic relationship.Enlightened2B wrote:I'm beginning to agree that although I do believe there is a lot of ego involved with romance and I'm not entirely sold on monogamy, I do think that relationships (romantic ones) can really bring one INTO presence. I'm seeing this now with the person I'm involved with. We're going on four dates now, and spending an incredible amount of time together....just getting to know each other (no sex yet). I immediately notice that I stray from presence and start to become sucked into this "force" of this "relationship" the more involved I get with her. I notice some anxiety as well as there is a 'wanting' to make this work. Then, the heavens open up once again.... I realize.....I am merely trying to control the outcome and not allowing what is....to be....and everything becomes peaceful again. It seems that romance triggers some sort of painbody I'm learning within me probably from past experiences which I think even relate back to my childhood. Really powerful stuff.
I sense that you will find the "force" you mention become extreme if/when sex does occur, and a test of your ability to remain in presence.
Personally I don't think romantic relationships bring you into presence, more an opportunity and a test at the same time.
My advice is to enjoy the play of it all and let go of the control, it will all turn out as its meant to as we say