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Or...you could decide this year, Valentines Day will be just one of many days when you remind yourself of how special you are...as you are filled with Love! The 'conditioned requirements' that love must show up through a romance does not honor Love. Think about Love in a BIG, much broader sense! What if you thought beyond the conventions of conditioning, and enjoyed Valentines Day as a way to celebrate & honor the heart, and the flow of love throughout all of Life!Clouded wrote:If there is one day in the year where I am constantly being reminded that I have no one special in my life, it is on Valentine's day
Clouded wrote:My opinion about being single has changed. Rather than waiting for (or searching for) a guy to love me, I'm going to love myself right here and right now. Who else knows me better and understands me better than myself? I've made peace with the idea of being forever alone (I no longer dread it; there are worse things that can happen to me), and I can more easily brush off other people's comments about me being single at my age (usually older women, like my mom, worry about me being an old maid and not ''producing'' any offspring, like my sole purpose is to be a baby machine.) I don't feel comfortable using social media and apps to get a date, I prefer the old fashioned way; I want to get to know a guy first, without any expectations about dating and romance, establish a friendship with him, and then become best friends and lovers. I don't like the rush of dating and dating multiple people at once (that feels like cheating to me); I don't like the hook-up culture of today; I want to experience something more meaningful and lasting.
I used to worry that guys would stay away from me once they find out that I don't have any experience (when I was in my late teens, I used to be ashamed of never having never experienced my first kiss and I considered kissing strangers at night clubs so I could practice for the ''real'' thing but then I decided that I didn't want to waste the memory of my first kiss on some random guy who was probably drunk out of his mind and who doesn't give a crap about me.) I don't want to let my fear of what others think of me dictate what I do; I'll just be myself and if a guy doesn't like that about me, then he's not the one for me and this would save me a lot of trouble and heartbreak than if I were to pretend that I'm exactly what he wants the girl of his dreams to be.
It means the sufferer is actually in control of their fate.
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