Thats was quick! Let's see.
The 2b does make a difference, I agree. It is bold to title oneself 'enlightened' anything in a forum about consciousness.
I am playing nice in the sandbox, I just don't agree with a certain amount of the advice being created into sandcastles. In the spectrum of advice, there can be good advice, and bad advice, and good appearing as bad and bad appearing as good--all kinds right?
Well, well intended bad advice that is thought to be good, is one of the most deceptive, and possibly destructive kinds. When I see advice that will result in a train wreck, I decide to point that out, because for me, I would rather not say anything than to give unknowingly, albeit well intentioned, destructive advice.
As I said, I realize that people mean well. Enlightened is indeed genuinely trying to provide good advice. But that doesn't mean it has any relevant bearing. (or it might also have lots of relevant bearing)---and what I see, is that some of the advice is not going to be effective.
For example "Just be honest."---it's a blanket statement that fails to account for the possible problems 'honesty' (also with the presumption that honesty is 'good') can create. Especially when just beginning a relationship.
Dijmart, notice that I go after the content, not the person. If people are throwing sand in a sand box, I go after the sand, not the person tossing it around. That is, I go after the ego.
If you really want me to answer your questions, I can, but I don't believe unconditional love is relevant to the OP's circumstance, what it looks like is an egoic defensive reaction from you. If you'd really like me to dive into that topic, I can.
"You're suggesting that honesty does not work in dating"
Correct. I'm guessing you haven't thought so much about the interplay between ego, self deception, and honesty. The subjectivity of honesty, the self deception of honesty. Simple blanket statements 'this is right' or 'this is wrong'--it's called 'egoic splitting'.
"That's pretty telling about your own experience I feel and perhaps another place where this anger inside of you resonates from."
--please explain your train of thought on how you came to a decision that this must be an anger issue.
"you're judging this exchange on a limited piece of information. "
I'm observing your exchange, this is not judgement.
"e, What does Unconditional Love mean to you personally?"
It's a concept that helps people cope with certain amounts of anxiety in their lives. Often tied in religion. It's egoic supply.
"What do relationships mean to you personally? What do you think the purpose of relating with another is?"
Part 1: very complicated. Part 2: even more complicated. Do you actually want an answer to those?
"Honesty is the highest form of Love""
It's naive and overly simple.
"So, basically, your perspective is right and everyone else's is wrong. Gotcha. Boy, you'll fit in really well here on this forum "
My dear Enlightened: there is no right, nor wrong.
"nor do I claim to know anymore about dating than the average Joe. "
That's ok. It doesn't slow you down from giving advice it seems though.
"my advice comes from my own personal experience from Love from the expression of this soul perspective"
Wishy-washy statement. Your soul perspective? what does that even mean?
"Literally, you've come on this board today and done nothing, but judge, judge, judge others in your posts today."
Please provide me with a single example where I was judging the person
You won't find one. Remember that observation and judgement are different things.
You continue with a whole bunch of assertions that I could categorically tackle, but what's happening is that your ego is responding to what it perceives as a threat, which is me. And as such, you're just kind of making assertions that don't make a lot of sense. That'll be hard to swallow.
If you're really interested in me answering some of your questions, please let me know. Your ego won't like my responses, but my responses will be accurate, and honest. Ironically, it's the honesty that you won't like.
A few points though,
"Could it be that you've completely taken my post out of context and are merely judging it because it doesn't match up with your own experiences?"
Your advice does not match up with reality. You have idealizations which are clouding you from seeing reality and how people, and human nature, operates.
I could assert that my 'perspective' has shown me that singing a song and dancing a jig is the greatest form of love--and I could believe it very firmly, but that doesn't make it reality. It even sounds kind of pleasant--you know, doing a little dance and all. And sorry, two perspectives, are not equal. Both people have equal rights to their own opinions and perspectives, but that doesn't mean they both carry the same weight.
It's like getting a medical opinion on a heart condition from a 5 year old, and a doctor. Both will have their 'perspectives', which is more in line with reality you think?
"each of our perspectives are unique as there is no one true fundamental perspective"
sure, makes sense. But this doesn't mean they are the same value, or remotely related to being in line with reality.
"then do you still feel the need to lash out at this Eckhart Tolle Forum"
Is it ironic that it's actually the truth, which is the highest form of love right? is what is getting you so riled up?
You can go ahead and tell me owls don't exist if you'd like.
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