imago dei wrote:Youŕe doing a total mess without even knowing the situation. Your mind seems to be full of prejudices, this is what express your posts.
Can you give me an example of my prejudice?
Well, he's "needy" in the sense that he needs lot of affection, more than others i know.He need much closeness while i often like loneliness.
Again, then why are you with hinm? Move on and find someone that suits you better or love him as he is. Simple.
There are lot of married persons who live in different houses....have you heard of it or do you live on another planet??
Well, I guess I live on another planet, because I've never heard of that before. That's irrelevant though. Because, I'm not saying it's a bad idea, but wouldn't it make more sense then, to find a man who ALSO wants this kind of lifestyle, instead of getting upset when the man you're with DOESN'T want this. Either Love the one you're with or move on.....
Again....the answers are simple, but you don't like the answers. You want to hear what you want to hear.
So, why so much aggressivity now?? You write all the time about my posts of years ago, people change, can you get it?? at that time i had different needs than now.
My posts might seem aggressive to you because I'm telling you what you don't want to hear, but I'm only trying to help you believe it or not.
And yes, i could live separated from my partner and still love him, with no need to stay with him 24h a day. Is it so difficult to understand??
But i'll try the living together, lets see.
Yes, it is difficult to understand because he obviously does not want that! So, are you going to try to change him to MAKE him want that or simply move on? Do you understand that you're posting your situation here and the answer is simple......move on. He's clearly not right for you. You can't change someone to make them want what you want.
You don't seem to understand that you're asking the same questions you've asked here in the past. Nothing has changed. Just go back and re-read your older posts. You've explained many times that you are an independent person who doesn't want to be smothered in a relationship by 'needy men' in the past as well. Then, in the past you told us that you couldn't find the type of man you were looking for and complained that you only met 'needy men'.
And guess what? Now once again, you're apparently going out with what you call another 'needy man'....basically, exactly the kind of men you've been complaining about since you starting posting here. And my question to you is.....why are you with him then? You've already seemingly established that you don't want men like this, so what are you asking us here for then? What advice can we possibly help you with?