I am going to give you the best of advice of anyone in this thread. Sorry guys and gals
Are you ready? Ok, here goes......
Ok, I lied, but here's my advice anyway, for whatever it's worth.
Trying to be present is oddly counterproductive. Instead, take up a practice, just as a starting point of this:
Accept and love whatever comes up. Make it all.....OK
If you feel like shit....accept that....just let it be. If you feel happy....accept that....let it be. If you feel horny.....accept that....let it be (a lot more difficult in my experience). I've had to learn to do this with physical health symptoms and it has not been easy, but has been most enlightening for me personally.
I'm not saying never to act on these feelings, but just as a practice and just as a starting point, start to simply let yourself feel whatever you feel. Start to notice your thoughts in a very relaxing manner and just MAKE THEM OK. Let thoughts arise, whatever they may be and I mean anything....just make them ok. Simply allow them to be. That's all we have to do to love ourselves and "be present". Just make it all ok. Make EVERYTHING ok. There is nothing wrong with any of it. ANY of it. Whatever arises is ok.
present is ironically a misnomer. You can't become something that you already are. Therefore, what people mean by becoming
present, is actually a process of letting go of resistance, something I am still learning.
Resistance is the thought processes that come up from the subconscious/human mind/left brain, that are based in years and years and years worth of conditioning. These thoughts are always based in worry, stress and fear. It's overly analytical and often associated with what some people call "the left brain". Now, you need the subconscious/left brain/human mind (whatever you would like to call it) for survival, but the human mind often takes control of our lives and 95 percent of our experiences are then projected from this place of conditioning and then we even get stuck in a 'fight/flight mode'. You can start to change that by letting go of resistance. You let go of resistance by allowing as a first step.
When you start to let go, by making everything ok, as it is or loving what arises, you align with a much "different" vibration of energy that is more based in peace, relaxation and allowing. This is more aligned with your true nature which is always unconditionally allowing.
However you feel is perfectly valid. This is just a simple meditative exercise that can be done ANYWHERE at ANYTIME. Sorry for the caps, but just trying to emphasize certain words.
Please don't get too confused on which meditative practices to go with and which not. Simply do this exercise and you will be present. I'm not saying you will only have good feelings. In all likelyhood, you will likely start to notice some very very ugly stuff too the more you align with this presence. But, it's ok, if you make it ok. This is also self love. This is also awakening as a process of realizing that you are not any ONE of these things alone.
We often get so identified with a thought or a feeling and can't break free of it. This simple meditative practice gets you to stop identifying so strongly with any one thought or feeling and simply be the space for all of it. This is the basics of Eckhart Tolle's profound teachings.
Start with this and see where it takes you.