Jealousy and insecurity

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Jealousy and insecurity

Post by Unburdened » Thu Sep 06, 2018 7:20 am

I'm a female in a 2 year relationship with a wonderful male. I'm plagued by non-justified feelings of jealousy because of how insecure I am. My partner is now working with an attractive woman and he is in her company 10 or more hours a day. She is 20 years younger than me and I am feeling very very jealous. My partner has done nothing wrong. I'm trying to accept my feelings but it's virtually impossible to sustain the feeling of acceptance. It slips away quickly and the madness returns. Have others here been through similar experiences and got through the other side? I'm very seriously considering ending my relationship over what I know is a ridiculous reason.

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Re: Jealousy and insecurity

Post by turiya » Thu Sep 06, 2018 11:08 pm

The cure for insecurity: "Discover in yourself what is truly secure. Invest your security, your happiness, and identity in that." -Rupert Spira

The Cure for Insecurity in Relationships - Rupert Spira: https://youtu.be/X7OwLAONIm8
Unburdened wrote:
Thu Sep 06, 2018 7:20 am
I'm trying to accept my feelings but it's virtually impossible to sustain the feeling of acceptance.
Here is another Rupert video about acceptance that might be helpful (particularly 2:39 through 4:22):

https://youtu.be/scxxKFBME_o?t=2m39s

"Acceptance is a quality of Awareness, openness... total openness to experience as it is. It's in Awareness that you find acceptance, not in the mind." -Rupert Spira
“We ourselves are not an illusory part of Reality; rather are we Reality itself illusorily conceived.” - Wei Wu Wei

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Re: Jealousy and insecurity

Post by Unburdened » Fri Sep 07, 2018 3:40 am

Thank you, Turiya.

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Re: Jealousy and insecurity

Post by Voyant » Fri Sep 07, 2018 2:01 pm

This podcast is interesting on the subject :
https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles ... nfidelity/

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Re: Jealousy and insecurity

Post by turiya » Sat Sep 08, 2018 4:46 am

Thanks for asking the question, Unburdened. :)
“We ourselves are not an illusory part of Reality; rather are we Reality itself illusorily conceived.” - Wei Wu Wei

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