Through awareness change will happen through you. Don't look for results. In silence we grow.Yeah, I'm aware of it after all is said and done, but it's only to when I start reacting to angry events again.
Check out Adyashanti's True Meditation. The audio version, which comes with the book, provides an excellent(in my opinion the best) guided meditation to connect with Being. Your true essence is most easily realized in states of peace and tranquility. Use these instances in your life to become familiar with Self. Set aside times throughout the day for this practice. Then when sticky situations arise, egoic patterns will less likely to emerge.