Phil: but of course this 'BJ syndrome' finds its deep roots in our patriarchal system feeding the culture that women must find a husband at all costs in order to survive in a man's world ...
"Bridget Jones syndrom" nice one
The very modern idea that we must be super hygienic is also a problem I think ! :p
Every odor must be neutralized, every bodily function must be concealed ... especially for women, we're supposed to smell like strawberry from head to toe !
And so we have to buy super harsh cancer-causing chemical so we can pretend to be civilized \o/
So, yeah, there is no problem except the belief that there is one
Those certainly are deeply embedded cultural beliefs! I agree crsnja, the pressure on women to be and look a certain way can be crushing. My sister-in-law just posted on FB about when young girls should be allowed to wear make-up to school (her daughter is 11) and I said, "Never! Encourage your daughter not
to wear makeup."
These cultural beliefs are the foundation of my theory that the human race is insane: When we're growing up we buy into the consensual reality of our culture. When we believe the way everyone else believes we are considered sane; if we don't we're considered to be an oddball or crazy. But many--if not most--of those beliefs that make up the consensual reality are just made-up, invented assumptions about the way things "should" be. Which makes the consensual reality a fabricated, delusional, mental model, not actual reality. One way to see consensual realities in action is to travel. Both you, Phil and crsnja are from Europe I believe. I am sure you could entertain those of us who are Americans with some observations of the craziness of the American consensual reality.
We are litteraly stucked in the matrix, yes ! This is absolutely crazy when you're stepping out of it more & more, we are completly self-hypnosed. That reminds me of a quote of Terrence McKenna which fits perfectly : "We are caged by our cultural programming. Culture is a mass hallucination, and when you step outside the mass hallucination you see it for what it's worth."
Sometime I joke about the fact that I am "not sure ifAmerica really exist", because it feels a lot like a giant Truman Show
Now, I've never been to America, so all the representations that I have come from images, writing etc + my own perception filter, but I think we have more or less the same madness in Europe, the absurdity of it is just more visible in the US I guess, same insanity, different degrees !