dijmart wrote:Ok, well, actually what happened is he came out to the dance floor and said "can I get some private dance lessons", I said "It can be arranged", then danced away. Again when I danced by him the next time he walked out and said "what's you're number?", I gave it to him and danced away. Later, I danced by him again, he came on the dance floor again and said "whats your name?"...lol!!!
As far as suffering..since then which was 1988, I've had my fair share, for sure! See the other thread to you.
I like your story. Its good to have somebody and more with a family. Then again, I know if its what someone does to seek fulfillment, it will not end well. I learned that with school and work, focusing on a career or dating someone. I liked the coffee scene from the movie note username. I met a girl in starbucks. I met some online. I also met some at work or through friends and just going out approaching. Its a great feeling but, its short lived. Its weird too cause even after sex or a great date, it gets strange or someone plays games. I don't regret rejection or failure. I regret not taking a chance. I started reading the reality transurfing series. I have gotten through 2 already and I started the 3rd volume. The reference to pendulums is reminiscent of a pain body or collective pain bodies.
My experience is different from Cristina. Its taking nonstop opportunities on a whim. I don't want to be alone forever so, I will risk everything now and have no regrets. I met a girl who is into choreography. She has danced most her life. She had some parenting issues and a complex relationship with her dad. I saw her at the bar one night and she freaked out. She got a bit crazy. We stopped talking. I saw her again year later. She is a single mom. For most of my life, dating as a teen seemed like one great big party that I never got an invite. Its weird to because girls did like me in school. Something always just happened in between. One girl gave her number. She texted a lot and sent pics. Then, it was like a month. I never heard from her. Of course, when I run into her at a bar, "she was busy." We went home together. The next morning, the reality sets in, and the truth was that she was sleeping with some guy. He dumped her and now she wanted a rebound. Obviously, she was not a girl I would go out with since I know what she is like.
I am seeing the same patterns again and again. Its becoming abundantly clear what is out there. Its only been more apparent to me as time goes on. Girls I knew years ago now want to settle down. When they had a lot more choice, they never did or they preached not needing a man. People are married and having kids. Now everyone is ready. I am not. I would like to date even exclusively but, the right person. A girl I met seems fun and likes to laugh a lot. I am not sure we have much in common but, she seems pretty receptive. I am going to ask her out next time I see her. What do I have to lose?
Its definitely been a pain body for me. Hot and cold or emasculating comments. Its easy to get a skewed vision of things.