But what if you are the one to blame? It was your mistake, your negligence that created the situation? I'm still mad at myself for a valuable conference that I wanted to attend but didn't because I had forgotten about it (it's a long story, but I thought I wouldn't be able to attend, and then my schedule opened up but by the time I remembered the conference it was already too late). Everyone I've spoken with about it said it was very informative, and I'm pissed that let it slip."Do not be angry towards yourself. To be angry towards your self is extremely unhelpful and unhealthy. You will have to find someone or something outside of you to substitute for yourself. You can be angry at your boss, or your mother or father, or your spouse or your children. That doesn't mean that you go up to them and involve them in the expression of anger. It has nothing to do with them. They are simply triggering anger that was already there, repressed within you. You can even be angry towards God. At least one third of the human population is angry at God, and blames God for their suffering, although it is usually at an unconscious level and rarely expressed."
It was my fault, but how do I not be angry at myself? Clearly my body isn't happy because even thinking about this causes physical pain. There must be a better way.