ET, De Mello and basically all spiritual teachers point out that what happens to us is not personal. In fact de Mello suggests you look at things as if they were happening to someone else.RCharles wrote:Yes, that's it--the important thing is to recognize that even though little me is a valid way of seeing the world, a useful tool in the world, we don't have to identify with it. You have an ego and a persona as a way of expressing your individual being and interacting with the world, but it is a tool, a mask. A little more than a tool or mask, really, because it generates many thoughts and emotions that you can watch and enjoy, but they are not YOU, and you don't have to believe them.
When you are present to Big Me, that is who you really are, and you are released from having to believe what little me tells you. You can watch and laugh at all his/her amusing antics.
I struggle with this because many of the things happening to me I (little me) seem to have brought about. If little me has a certain behavior I will experience the consequences so I cannot say I have the luxury to look at such consequences as if they were happening to someone else because really little me did cause them. Or didn't ?