Hi Lucy. I can only share with you my current level of understanding on this subject. Over time it is likely that my understanding will be revised. The short answer to use your words, even with the risk that we are in the realm of words and ideas, is that "unconditioned consciousness is reality".
My experience is this:
On days that I am deeply surrendered on account of meditation or whatever intense inner work I have managed to do, I find that my reality is a string of coincidences, almost like a movie where the script is already written and known to me at some deeper level. I need something or someone or some idea, and it shows up just at the right time. My timing is just right and I happen to be in the right place at the right time to pick up the gifts strewn along my path. I avoid accidents even if I am not aware.
I don't know that I am affecting reality with my thoughts as much as I may be coming to a place of "perfection" or "flow", or harmony with reality.
On the other hand in the few rare instances when I am in a place of anger or deep resistance, things begin to literally blow up in my face. Relationships, objects, etc. begin to "explode" as it were, and it all feels quite burdensome, much like it used to feel years ago before I learnt to stabilize my inner state.
I also find that the more I am in a stable inner state, in the few times that I do leave this stability, the damage that my inner state brings about is quite significant. It is as if by staying centered longer and longer I am sharpening a sword which during moments of uncenteredness can hurt more than ever before. Or perhaps my sensitivity to the damage has increased and I perceive small explosions as much larger.
Leaving aside my experience and back to the realm of what teachers say, or what I understand them to say:
Byron Katie for instance says Reality or God are the same thing and you don't argue with them.
Ramana Maharshi and all of the non-duality teachers such as Eckhart, Adya, etc. say you are "That", you are Reality.
However they are speaking from a standpoint of ABSOLUTE REALITY. That is the chief weapon of the school of non-duality, there is no separate seer and seen, it is all one. No concepts are sacred, all that is left after all concepts vanish is the One Reality in which all apparently arises and falls.
On the other hand you have people such as Wayne Dyer who publish books such as "Power of Intention" and then there are movies such as "The Secret" and of course the Abraham-Hicks teachings, all of them focused on reminding people about the power of their thoughts. These people are speaking from a standpoint of RELATIVE REALITY. They see Reality and the Person as separate, there is duality. In this duality they see an interaction happening between the two, the Little Self and the Big Self.
Until one achieves ABSOLUTE REALITY, perhaps it is not a bad thing to allow RELATIVE REALITY to exist at least as a concept. I believe that neither school is incorrect and that they are not mutually exclusive, that they co-exist based on one's level of understanding.
The best test of all this is to live it and see for yourself.
Anyway, sorry about all the words, it is hard to speak to some or most of these things.