so i literally stopped searching and just got on with my life doing things i enjoyed and visiting friends"
...the above quote has struck a chord and I need to delve into it deeper..or do I?
In my experience this is what this quote means:
When I stop searching, I am in the present.
I simply am.
The more I simply am, the more things show up without me even trying.
I find that deep stillness attracts one's karma or dharma (destiny or momentum of Life), which in turn takes care of all of one's needs, desires, wishes.
Of course one has to be surrendered enough to see that everything showing up is nothing but Life/Me/Myself/I.
The more I surrender, the less I know, and the more perfectly everything flows, even challenges.
The less I am here, meaning I the ego, the more happy my life is.
All life needs is a little less ego, a little less resistance. Nothing else is missing.
No-thing needs to be added. No effort, no ideas, no seeking, no enjoying, no suffering.
Only this that is ever here. Sink into it my friend, be lost in this fullness, dissolve and tell me what remains?