Webby I just want to share and thank you for what a wonderful job you're doing sharing your understanding of these things, what a wonderful bridge you're building. Thanks.
Your take on the life review is spot on generally, I feel like I would like to add something to this in the hope it won't be misunderstood that pain is actually experienced in a life review within the light of all awareness, that seems slightly 'off' for me, admittedly I don't quite understand how it could be perceived as 'hellish' - you may have already answered it in the 'no judgement' mentioned in the second paragraph, I'm not sure.
So, if one has caused a lot pain in life, they would experience that pain from the point of view of those that suffered from the reviewers actions. Not only at the first level, but also the reverberations out through several associations of experience from the one who suffered. In other words, the flow of pain caused would be experienced however far it went. It's an energy flow kind of thing. The clarity of what pain one may have caused could be quite 'hellish'.
(Of course the opposite is also true in the loving acts one expresses as these are also perceived through their many connecting layers.)
Understand, there is no judgment from the beings or the loving nature of our true home environment. What judgment may exist is only self imposed. But our expansion of consciousness is based on inclusion of all experience, thus there is great value in the life review seen through awareness of clarity regardless of potential pain or joy. Through that spiritual clarity in understanding, the purpose of the human experience is known and the inclusion of all experience becomes valuable as understanding and wisdom.
In my experience, this 'reliving' although that's not quite 'right' it's more that when one IS totally nakedly, unbridledly love - gratitude & generosity energy in absolute equilibrium with everything that ever is/was/will be (and that's probably why that definition of love 'touched' me) when you are this then everything that you are experiencing is totally without judgement or fear or sense of 'wrong' or pain- it's (for me) far more like seeing / feeling / knowing / experiencing the totality of it - from 'stuff' that leaked into it from decades ago to what just happened - how everything is a response filtering perceptions along the way, but not feeling / knowing / experiencing it in any pain as such... ack... just 'is' experienced like an 'aha' moment where something becomes clear and loses its angst or resistance energy, so even though we kind of live the experience fully - in equilibrium all things are balanced, so in benign things hot cold become perfect warm, in more individually perceived former 'beliefs' in perspectives, all perspectives are simultaneously collapsed into equilibrium - so my 'anger' and 'hatred' for my teenage friend who had been murdered - her experience, his experience and my experience, and everyone else even remotely touched by an experience or perspective of the experience of it collapsed into equilibrium. So, what I saw / experienced / felt of my pain and anger and hatred in response in my perspective of that experience, I 'saw' that all of that that I had felt so violently and fearfully and energetically (and yes in all the ways that it fed into other experiences because of my attachment to it, and belief in it) but all of that fear, pain, anger, hatred was absolutely absorbed into and neutralised in the awareness of and energy of the gratitude & generosity energy that I was now completely experiencing.
So in the absence of fear etc there is only the absolutely free flowing of love - gratitude & generosity in equilibrium. In this naked equilibrium this is experienced in gratitude & generosity, so even the 'judging' of the one reviewing their previous experiences in separation from this, are done and experienced in this ...so hard to describe.... 'love' for self and other all as one. I (and I appreciate this is a singularised perspective) cannot imagine how anyone could hold any fear or sense of pain for any amount of time in this equilibrium. For me, maybe, one still has to somehow hold them self apart from it.
All I could see was that I brought that pain and hatred and fear to me, by me, through me and it tainted everything about my life experiences. It was like 'aha' ...oh... hmmm all in perfect okayness, with no recrimination, no judgement, no unfolding punishment or reward not at all, just 'is'. It's not that one may have caused a lot of pain etc, it's that one sees how and why that pain was caused by all the different perspectives of it as an experience.
My friend and murderer were both smiling at me with such love on the realisation - but kind of the same 'intensity' of an 'aha moment' no silly you, you had it wrong all the time, or even clever you now you see, just ' it is' this is how it is and now you see it, know it in totality. It's powerful, but powerful in its all encompassing awareness. It's like her murderer would have had the same benign realisation at that 'level' of awareness (even though as far as I was aware in life he was still living & in jail at the time - and yet, here he was 'with' her as one in this experience, just two sides of the one coin so to speak) and she would have had the same benign realisation about her experiences as well.
She used to (in life) be quite a staunch different religion to me and used to give me a bit of a hard time about some different perspectives too - all this was 'known', 'realised' 'accepted' and encompassed in the immediate totality of all the equilibrium as well. It needed no 'explaining' or defining, or defending it just IS known.
The holding onto and eventually letting go of notions of life & death made sense to me somewhat in a novel by M Scott Peck called In Heaven as on Earth - but I can't really explain or define how it spoke to me either. For me it's a helpful adjunct to the nde 'reports' or in my case, experience, and the differences as described by others.
If one could ever (and I don't know if one could) capture and hold the 'aha' moment experience --- how there is no recrimination, no remorse necessary, no 'karma' needing to be rebalanced, no punishment or reward just perfectly absorbedly 'is' known and from there built upon and responding differently. (albeit I guess there might be quite a few that will freak out that I've reduced an nde to an 'aha' moment