painBody wrote:1 - Relationships: He states that relationships are purely ego-based, and that we don't *need* another to feel complete/content. I call bull$#!T. I would rephrase this ... I'd say that humans are social animals, and that the need for relationships (yes, that need is legitimate, not an illusion) is a limitation of our form (just like the need to eat, sleep, and defecate) ... needing social contact is wired into our bodies and minds. I see this as being far more fundamental than the ego. In other words, the need for relationships, to me, is NOT an ego trap, although it can definitely *appear to* be.
I'm not talking about marrying someone for money or status. I'm not talking about marrying someone for the purposes of emigrating to a foreign country. Yes, those types of "relationships" ARE definitely products of the ego. I'm talking about the genuine need for human contact ... to share our joys and sorrows with, someone to bring us a glass of water at 3 am when we're running a high fever, someone to share life with, someone who will fight our battles alongside us. That is NOT an egoic need !!! It is what defines us as humans ... it is the most fundamental thing about us, other than our large craniums. We are social animals. And we need to honor our form and all its limitations, and not label everything as egoic.
Why does ET need to be with Kim Eng ?
2 - Suicide (I talk about this in detail in one of my threads): ET says that suicide is a big "no" to life. Again, I say that it can be, but not in all cases. Suicide is the absolute best thing for some folks, and can arise as the result of a complete surrender to life (i.e. a "yes" to life).
Those are my two HUGE disagreements with ET, though most else of what he says is right on !!! He has transformed my life beyond all stretches of imagination.
"painBody" i'm pretty sure Eckhart would not say he 'needs' Kim...same as he doesn't need a nice car, a nice house to live in, approval of people, really anything. These were choices presented to him and he accepted after he was enlightened. We don't have to live like monks on a mountain top to be fully enlightened. (This is the reason i can absorb his teachings and i am forever grateful he is here...and Now...for me to learn.)
I think he talked of suicide being the ego taking over the mind. Once he did say "the ego wants you dead, but not itself." then he giggled!