I was reading this article by a psychologist. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-craig- ... 16608.html
I think this statement is so true. When something triggers this fear, I feel it like this painbody near my belly area. I have not been present enough to be aware of it as it arises. Most of the time I have to deal with this after it has arises. And i do feel that this fear doesent just go away at once. It’s like a gradual lessening of the fear. I’m not sure if it can go away like how krishnaurthi hints at? There is always a trigger that causes this ‘fear’ painbody to emerge. Most of the time, this trigger is only indirectly related to the fear.It's not need, then, that engenders neediness. It's fear-- fear of our own needs for connection and the possibility that they won't ever be met. That's what hurtles us into the abject despair of neediness.
I have asked this question beforein previous posts : How can i trigger the fear and deal with it using present awareness? I ask myself, “ What am i groping after? What am i seeking? Why am i seeking? What am i escaping from? And also i want to ask, why am i proving myself? I do find that they are all interlinked in this mesh. All related to the self being concerned with itself. Maybe i need to explore more deeply.
So, i have these unfilfilled needs. I dont know how they originated. I dont know why they are in my body now. Perhaps wanting to seek expression? Wanting to be acknowledged? I dont know what these needs are. Any advice?