Frits, in forums like these, one reads a lot about "non-duality". IMO this can sometimes be confusing. I would like to mention that IMO the above is a very good definition of non-duality.kiki wrote:PON leads to the nondual state, and in this there is no enemy in opposition to you because the you that has been identified with drops away.
When you are identified with a certain mental position (belief/attitude/viewpoint), you automatically create enemies (opposition). This appears to be a feature of how the identified mind works. As the intensity of the identification (attitude) increases, so does the opposition. So we do create our own enemies, and not realizing that we're doing it doesn't change anything for the better.
When we give up our mental positions, by giving up our identification with them, our opposition fades away. Life gets easier and becomes better instead of being a struggle to "prove ourselves right".
As you give up your positions/identifications/opinions about how things should be, you don't actually disappear of course. What disappears is your suffering resulting from believing things about your nature that were never true; what disappears is what was always false. The teachers tell us that what is true can never disappear.