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Re: Cognitive therapy vs Tolle

Posted: Tue Oct 14, 2008 1:05 am
by AndyD
I disoverd "Feeling Good" some time after Tolle. What I got from "Feeling Good" was to record (in a tabular form) my emotional reactions and thoughts to a situation then determine the truth of the situation (i.e. determine without my predjudiced emotions)and how it should be reacted to accoording to that (and write that in). I would feel the emotion within but react according to the truth of the situation; this would put the mind at rest and allow the emotion to disolve. Increasingly seeing the truth of the situation became faster allowing me to further act without the jaded views of the mind and emotions; giving me better results and leaving me more peacefull.

Re: Cognitive therapy vs Tolle

Posted: Tue Dec 16, 2008 3:38 am
by pardes
dagobert wrote: They allow us to find the truth, which is beyond happiness. The rest is just a mind game to focus on happy moments and control sad ones.
There are many moments when the veneer gets ripped off what we think is reality and the clues are obvious that the present moment is what we are called to.

Before I knew how to read I found a photo documentary book of a Nazi concentration camp. In one of the photos a little girl my age stared back at me. She was looking right at me. Really seeing me. I was sure she was trying to tell me something, some secret of great importance. I kept going back again and again to that page and again and again she stared back at me. The book had been hidden by my parents so I couldn't find it since I'm sure they thought the photos were too disturbing so I couldn't ask them about what the photos meant. Plus I also sensed they wouldn't know what to say. So I tried to make sense of it in my own way by sharing my life with the little girl. I learned to ride a bike "with" her. I had a birthday party "with" her as if by doing these things I could somehow make up for the unspeakable horror of the photos in the book. It wasn't long before I was exhausted from carrying us both around, living for her as well as for me and she slipped into my memory.

What I took from this experience was that rejoicing in a wonderful moment or raging against a torturous moment, or trying to assume someone else's joy or trying to "fix" someone else's pain is pointless; and most of all trying to assuage what happened to people with "right" and wrong" and I would have to find the truth somewhere within that. It's been a long journey since then, certainly an interesting one most of the time; but what relief and utter amazement 59 years later to discover as Eckhart points out is that our inner purpose is to fully experience the present moment.

When I heard Eckhart speak those words on the audiotape, I felt a sudden gasp that was a mixture of a sob and the music of natural laughter. I was taking my first free breath as the memory of the little girl's face staring back at me came to mind with a sense of peace and love.