Now who's taking offence of behalf of someone else ?
rideforever I now have a name for the different 'states' (see the Being Human thread). The Alpha state of relaxed awareness can operate quite harmoniously in evaluating and responding (in love energy) without taking offence or making enemy, obstacle or means to an end of a person, thing or situation.
It feel like a sigh .. kind of like my 'oh dear'.... it's gentle, it's easy, it's not upset or reactive at all. It's the nuance of the benign question - 'is that so?' when differing points of viewing collide. If you've read A New Earth there is a wonderful demonstration of 'is that so' energy in a story in there about a monk falsely accused of a thing.
The Beta state of arousal treats these mis-takes differently it can cause us to feel edgy and stressed out and reactive. This is the state in which we take 'offence'. It's actually a brain response to stimuli interpreted along frequencies.
From the article I mention in the other thread:
Under calm conditions, when we are relaxed, the brain produces Alpha waves (8-12 hertz). We produce Beta waves (12-25 hz) when in a state of heightened watchfulness and reactivity. Berger also noted that aggressive behavour may erupt when we are in beta.
The positive function of beta is that it sharpens our responses and keeps us alert. A healthy amount of beta is necessary for us to function in daily life, and essential in life and death situations where the 'flight or fight' response is appropriate. However beta run amok can also keep us edgy and stressed out. Spending a significant amount of time over a sustained period in beta - even as an appropriate response to our environment, can cause us to suffer negative psychological and physical side effects as a result. The long term effects of primarily operating in beta can be destructive. Decisions made in beta can be reactive and defensive, rather than collaborative and constructive. Typically those who have lived with stressful situations for many years may become so entrenched in beta-driven responses that, even when the source of stress is removed, they continue to respond in that way; a person an come to mistakenly interpret an everyday occurrence as a life and death situation.
In alpha we naturally have a better command of our life, our health and our moods. We are able to think more clearly, consider responses and perhaps make more creative decisions, with better long term results. Certain types of music (or I would add being in tune with some nature sound vibrations, rustling trees, flowing rivers etc) can help us enhance the production of alpha brain waves and the associated chemicals, providing a powerful positive influence on how we feel, our reactions and behaviours and the health of our bodies' cells.
John Levine - the power of sound.
I read your response that resonated as a Beta response (reaction) to Ralph's Alpha (awareness) response and was able to apply Alpha awareness to there being a mis-take rather than an intended offence and point out the mis-take in communicating.
At no time did I take offence at you or on anyone else's behalf, and if you take a breath and calm down a little (find your way to the Alpha state) you might notice, neither has Ralph.
@ Ralph: No worries I'll give you some spare ones to use in future ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,