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I HAVE CHANGED SO MUCH. BUT MY HUSBAND IS EGOIC

Posted: Thu Oct 22, 2015 12:18 am
by universe
Since a I read The Power of Now and the book A Course in Miracles, my life and the way I see the word has changed a lot. But my husband is so egoic and he doesn´t believe in God. I would like to help him to see the true, but I don´t know how.
I would like to get some suggestions.

Re: I HAVE CHANGED SO MUCH. BUT MY HUSBAND IS EGOIC

Posted: Sat Jun 18, 2016 11:48 pm
by July
Universe, hello. I am July. Does it help at all, that the same thing has happened to me? Perhaps in this we are kindred spirits. : ) I do understand your frustration. I have been seeking spiritual awareness since I was 15. I was with a friend, relaxing against a fence, on a drowsy summers day. I decided to get up, to go over and speak with a friend who was standing with another group. I did so, but when I got there, no one seemed able to see or hear me. I walked back, puzzled, to sit down. That was the first time I encountered my physical body apart from myself, for I was standing there, looking at myself sitting against the fence, but I was outside of that physical entity. I have devoted my life to my spirituality. But my husband did not. Often it seems he does not hear the words I speak, or provides reasons different from my own for the things I say. He is trapped in his own schema. He feels himself to be the labels others put on him. Regardless of how I have tried to help, he only pulls tighter into his own beliefs. He does not see the control he let's others have over him. In his defence, it is difficult to accept that the belief you have spent a lifetime building is not your truth. It is like stepping off a cliff into emptiness. Your decision to find yourself was your own. They are trapped in a box of their own making. And you and I, we are not teachers. They will be offended by any attempt to change them, as they will interpret it as our finding fault with them. Was it not a monumental task to find yourself where you are now. There is a lesson in acceptance, that is well worth understanding. I suggest kindness, and in being the light. Be an example, and if your peace and the wisdom you find are intact, perhaps he will follow. But he may not. And that is something you may have to accept. Be yourself. I hope I have been helpful in some way. Bless you, I know you only want to help him. He will only come when he is ready.

Re: I HAVE CHANGED SO MUCH. BUT MY HUSBAND IS EGOIC

Posted: Sun Feb 25, 2018 5:45 am
by casperfren
Im not in an entirely similar situation, but in my rellation to parts of my family i feel similar things often

I think there is a boundry to be drawn somewhere with people that is to out of your frequency/frequency-aim..
If you truly dont feel that the other person is remotely apperciating you for you

If you have to be 100% present all the time to not have your energy drained by the heavy egoic pull from the other person

With me and my dad for instance, the relation changes to the better when im aiming at being 100% present, but i still feel i value solitude more most of the time, in comparison to having to pull both me and other persons !spiritual weight!, lol...

That would tell me to reduce time with that person.

But for instance with my mom, she has a quality of genuinely love, even though she, and i, can be often unconsious that we play our role in rellation to each other, due to shared history (in most time me not being very consious in my childhood and adolecene, of course) But that for me is a more isolated task, and not too overwhelming, because she inherently respects and loves me and is open to that things change

Good luck!:)