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Post by Elise » Tue Aug 04, 2009 11:45 pm

The latest blog post by Gina Lake:

THOUGHTS ARE VERY CONVINCING

Thoughts are designed to be very convincing. As soon as we think a thought, we believe it. We have to learn to stand apart from and question our thoughts before we begin to see how few of them are actually true. “I’m not pretty,” “He shouldn’t have left,” “I can’t do that,” “I can’t take any more rejection,” “She doesn’t care”—such thoughts are felt to be true and, therefore, believed to be true and, therefore, spoken convincingly, as if they were true. And because we are convinced when we speak them, others become convinced as well.

The funny thing is, though, that being convinced of something doesn’t make it so. Con artists and salesmen convince people all the time of things that aren’t true because they know how to sound believable. The best salesmen are the ones who believe in their product, but salesmen can be just as effective by pretending to believe in their product. If they seem to believe it, you believe it. But believing something doesn’t make it true. Many contestants on the TV show “American Idol” believe they are going to win, but only one actually wins.

However, in the world of the ego, believing makes it so. Believing is how the ego creates its reality. Its reality is based on beliefs and ideas, not on what is real and true. Your beliefs create your mental reality (not reality, itself). For the ego to be able to create a mental reality, thoughts have to be believable. If thoughts weren’t felt to be believable, then the ego’s mental reality couldn’t be sustained. So, part of having an ego is having thoughts that are felt to be believable, no matter how untrue they are. Even when our thoughts contradict each other, they can still seem believable, unless we consciously question them. Once we begin to see how unbelievable our thoughts actually are, the ego’s mental reality begins to fall apart. It can only be sustained by believing that our thoughts are true.

Something you believe to be true that isn’t is called a “delusion,” and people who believe something that isn’t true are said to be “deluded” or “delusional.” This would describe most of humanity, since most people are deeply identified with their egoic mind—the voice in their head—and its mistaken ideas and limiting beliefs. When you believe this voice, you are deluded. The mental world created by the ego is a delusional world. That is why spiritual teachers refer to the world as an “illusion.” The world, itself, isn’t actually an illusion, but the mental world created by the ego is. The world that egos live in is an illusion—it’s all made up.

Waking up out of the ego’s illusory world requires seeing that no matter how convincing your thoughts are, they aren’t true. And the same goes for feelings, which make thoughts even more convincing. For instance, when you feel sad because you believe something (a story the egoic mind is telling), that makes the thought that caused you to feel sad all the more believable. Thoughts create feelings, which are actual physical sensations, and then these real sensations lend credibility to the original thought, which had no truth or basis in reality. Brilliant! Who thought this up? Well, this Oneness is pretty intelligent!

Yes, thoughts are very convincing. The ego is the penultimate con artist, and we are here to catch the ego at its game. Once we see the truth, we can’t be fooled anymore. We are too wise to keep falling for the same tricks, except maybe occasionally! The ego is tricky, and it gets trickier and trickier the wiser we get. It doesn’t fully disappear, and it doesn’t have to as long as we continue to remember that these thoughts about “me” are false, every last one of them. They tell a story about the false self, and there’s no one here that those stories are true of.

Who you really are can’t be described in words and has no past or future. Who you are is simply this consciousness looking out of your eyes and experiencing these words on this page. You are just This: nameless, formless, empty nothingness and everything-ness pretending to be “you” for the time being. And the way it pretends to be you is by making your thoughts believable. That’s how the false self—this you that you think of yourself as—is created. That’s fine, until it’s time to wake up and see what’s really going on.

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Re: 'Thoughts Are Very Convincing' by Gina Lake

Post by karmarider » Wed Aug 05, 2009 9:02 am

Gina Lake's writing is simple and gentle. Thanks for posting.

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Re: 'Thoughts Are Very Convincing' by Gina Lake

Post by Webwanderer » Wed Aug 05, 2009 1:26 pm

Agreed. Great stuff from Gina Lake. I'm really enjoying her contributions. Thanks Elise. :D

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EDIT: This Topic has been moved to Spiritual Teachers section. I felt Gina Lake deserves her own section.

Ellse, feel free to continue your additions from Gina's works. However please put them in the common thread in "Teachers" Thanks.

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Love Transcends Appearances

Post by Elise » Fri Aug 07, 2009 3:42 am

Thanks Webwanderer, I love Gina! She's really wonderful.

LOVE TRANSCENDS APPEARANCES

Appearances seem so important. Most of us really believe that our appearance is important, and we work very hard at having a certain appearance. This is especially true for women, of course, and this conditioning is very difficult to overcome because there’s a lot of fear that not looking good will have drastic consequences. How we look becomes a top priority for many and often remains that way right up until death. My mother, for instance, insisted on “putting on her face” even on her deathbed after her body had been diminished to skin and bones by cancer. Even then, she was still trying to improve herself, still not seeing the beauty that she was as this old dying woman, still not allowing herself to just be as she was.

Our appearance is not entirely irrelevant or unimportant; it does affect how others initially react to us. However, it is not as important as we make it. We suffer over it and try so hard to look other than the way we do. All of this trying is exhausting and takes time and energy away from what is more fulfilling and important in life. That’s the problem—when we are consumed with our appearance, we are not giving our attention and energy to other things that might be more meaningful, more fulfilling, and more rewarding. We might not realize that cultivating kindness is more rewarding than cultivating beauty. We might fail to notice the beauty that is here, within ourselves and others, just as we are. Inner beauty and outer beauty can be at odds, since there is only so much attention and energy we have. Where your energy and attention go reflects what you value. Do you value outer beauty more than inner beauty? You might say that you don’t, but where are you putting your energy and attention? What are your thoughts on?

The funny thing is that others love us for our inner beauty, for the expression of Essence that we are, although they may be attracted to us by our outer beauty. That allure doesn’t mean much if they don’t also fall in love with us. What people fall in love with is not our outer beauty (that’s called attraction or infatuation, not love) but something much more subtle—our being. They love us because they see lovable qualities that belong to Essence: goodness, creativity, kindness, joy for life, patience, compassion, courage, wisdom, strength, clarity, and so on.

The beauty of getting old with someone is that there is an opportunity to really get that appearances don’t matter. You watch as your beloved’s appearance changes before your eyes into an old man or an old woman, but you may love him or her more than ever, not because of how your beloved looks, but because you love your beloved’s being—you love how he or she is in the world and how he or she is with you. That’s when you really get that all this emphasis on appearances is false. Appearances never were that important. You only thought they were.

Many others believe that too—but that doesn’t make it true. People are under the illusion that appearances are far more important than they are, which does create that reality to some extent. It makes this seem so, and it creates a culture that is sadly misled into putting too much energy and attention on such things. This makes it difficult for us to discover the real truth. But life is wise and ages us so that we can discover this. It is perhaps one of the greatest lessons of our lives, although it may take a lifetime to learn it.

If we see this, then aging is fortunate, as it gives us the gift of finally getting to relax and stop striving to improve ourselves. We finally get to put our attention on what is important—on loving others (and ourselves) just the way we are. This is the greatest gift we can give ourselves and others, and the most important thing we can do in life.

SOURCE: http://www.radicalhappiness.com/all-blo ... ppearances
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ABOUT EFFORT by Gina

The dictionary defines “effort” as “the use of energy to get something done.” Whether we experience effort as “effortful” or “effortless” depends on where the motivation to do something comes from. Whenever doing comes from the ego—from a thought, such as “I have to do this” or “I should do this”—rather than from Essence, those efforts will feel “effortful” and be characterized by trying and striving. On the other hand, when doing comes from Essence—from our Being—it is not motivated by a thought but by a drive or urge to act that has joy, excitement, and a feeling of “yes” attached to it.

The difference between effortful, ego-driven activity and effortless activity is joy. Efforts that come out of joy are easeful, spontaneous, fluid, and effortless. Efforts that come out of conditioning or “shoulds,” on the other hand, are generally accompanied by tension, stress, confusion, resentment, anger, fear, resistance—and desires. Effortful activity is driven by desire—a desire for a reward or to avoid something we fear. The activity isn’t done for itself, for the joy of doing it, but to get something or avoid something. This is another difference between ego-driven efforts and Essence-driven ones. Although Essence-driven efforts may have a goal, the pursuit of that goal is intrinsically rewarding and produces happiness, fulfillment, excitement, and joy. Ego-driven efforts, on the other hand, are often not enjoyed but endured for the promise of a reward or to avoid some negative consequence. The journey to the goal is not enjoyed—life is not enjoyed.

When you are not enjoying life, you are in the grips of the ego. When you are enjoying it, you are either engaged in activity that is aligned with Essence or in touch with Essence by simply being present to whatever you are doing. What a wonderful world this is, that joy is a signpost that points us in the right direction. How wonderful that the prescription for a happy life is to follow our joy, and not the opposite. We often act like the opposite is true. The ego’s goals require unpleasant efforts, struggle, striving, stress, and strain. We think that these efforts are necessary to finally, one day, be happy. We sacrifice the happiness that comes from simply being present to what is here right now and moving as Essence would move us in hopes of a happy future, which never comes. The ego never delivers on its promises of happiness; it only saps the joy out of life by pushing, pushing, pushing us toward its superficial goals—more and better of everything. It takes us out of the present moment for the hope of something better in the future.

Unfortunately, more and better of everything has never made anyone happy for very long; it only exhausts us and makes it difficult to be happy right now. Striving is the experience of trying to get something that isn’t here right now. When we get it, we usually keep on striving to get something else that isn’t here right now. There’s no end to things that aren’t here right now, so there’s no end to striving if you buy into the idea that you need something other than the joy of simply existing and responding to life from your true nature before you can be happy.

When people hear this message, they are afraid that if they stop striving nothing will get done and their life will fall apart. It’s true that the ego’s goals may suffer, but the life that comes out of following your joy will be much happier and more productive in meaningful ways. You inner joy will drive you to develop your talents, express your creativity, serve others, take time for love and to enjoy life, learn, grow, and unfold yourself in meaningful ways. You won’t lack drive; it will just be coming from a deeper place and lead to more meaningful accomplishments. There will probably be plenty of doing, but it will be balanced by just being, by connecting with Essence and with those you love. Nothing of value is lost in not allowing the ego to determine where your energies go. Something else that is much wiser will take its place, something that has been trying to guide your life all along. Then, you will become the instrument in the world that you were meant to be—and you will be happy.

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Post by Sighclone » Wed Aug 12, 2009 9:05 pm

Lovely notes from Gina. I am reminded that the ego does not care about happiness, necessarily. Some egos thrive on it -- others thrive on misery. There is much psychological literature on the perceived value of negative strokes as well as positive ones. The ego does like attention, however, and will manufacture situations to get it. Joy is utterly incidental to control and management of the situation. "Should" is an egoic word.

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There is not past, no future; everything flows in an eternal present. - James Joyce

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Post by karmarider » Thu Aug 13, 2009 7:39 pm

Beautiful. Thanks for introducing me to Gina Lake.

"What a wonderful world this is, that joy is a signpost that points us in the right direction. How wonderful that the prescription for a happy life is to follow our joy, and not the opposite"

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Post by Elise » Thu Aug 27, 2009 1:53 am

DOING AND NON-DOING

The ego is very focused on doing: “What should I do? What will I do? How will I do it? When will I do it? What will happen when I do that?” The ego takes on the task of planning the doing, motivating the doing, and evaluating the doing. It also wonders about the doing, imagines and fantasizes about the doing, worries about the doing, changes its mind about the doing, talks about the doing, and gets confused about the doing. The only thing it doesn’t actually do is the doing, because the ego doesn’t exist. It doesn’t have a body to perform the doing. It motivates the body, but the body is not the ego. It uses the mind, but the mind is not the ego. The ego is simply thoughts arising out of nowhere, with no one attached to them. There is no person thinking those thoughts, only a body-mind having those thoughts and the semblance of a person. The person, however, is really only thoughts about a person. There is no actual person there that is the ego. The ego is a sham. It’s imaginary. It is no more substantial than a thought.

When we are identified with the ego, we are very busy doing what the ego suggests we do and busy mentally doing all the other things related to doing that were just mentioned. This doing causes our life to happen and to be experienced in a certain way. It shapes and creates a sense of self, and it constructs a life. The life the ego creates is based on its desires, its tendencies, and other conditioning, or programming. The person that you think you are and the life that this person creates come out of conditioned, or programmed, thoughts. But that’s not the whole story, thankfully.

Because the ego doesn’t actually exist, there must be something else here that does—and there is, of course. What actually exists is the real you, and it is the consciousness that apparently (although not exclusively) inhabits your particular body-mind. This consciousness motivates and guides you, and it uses the body to speak and act. It operates along side of the ego. It allows the ego to move you, while it also moves and guides you in its own way. While the ego primarily uses the mind (the egoic mind) to move you, this consciousness, which I often call Essence, uses intuition, inspiration, inner drives, and urges to move you.

When you are responding to Essence, it doesn’t feel like the doing of the ego. It’s fluid, natural, spontaneous, and without resistance or thought. You just act or speak spontaneously, and it feels right and natural to do so. This action in the midst of a lack of effort and resistance is what spiritual teachers refer to as the experience of there being “no doer.”

When your doing is full of striving, trying, worrying, stress, and confusion, it is coming from the ego; when it is spontaneous and natural, it is coming from your true nature, Essence, and it feels like you aren’t doing anything. What it feels like is going with the flow. It feels like something else is carrying you along (and it is), and you are just flowing with that without resistance. Rather than the egoic mind pushing you, you are being carried along, without any desire for it to be otherwise, without questioning it, without confusion—without thought. It feels right, so there is no need to do anything but go along with it.

The ego uses desire and fear to motivate us, which is stressful: “Will I get my desires met or will what I’m afraid of happen?” But with Essence, there is a deeper Will at work, one that is also shaping all of life. When you are aligned with this Will, you are aligned with all of life and in the flow. You are carried along. Your only job is to pay attention to where the flow is going, to notice it and adjust your course accordingly. You feel the rightness of your course with your Heart, and the mind is only used in practical ways—to read, calculate, learn, analyze, and so on. Doing arises naturally out of the flow as needed, and because it is part of the flow, it doesn’t feel anything like the doing of the ego. It is the experience of there being “no doer,” yet doing is happening.

Everyone experiences this non-doer on a daily basis. We all move back and forth between effortful, ego-driven doing and effortless, Essence-driven activity. And we all are evolving toward living more in the flow. The more aware you are of the difference between these two types of doing, the easier it will be to move into the flow and stay there.

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Post by Webwanderer » Sat Aug 29, 2009 4:38 pm

Gina Lake has rapidly become one of my favorite sources. I cannot recommend her too highly.

Here is a clip I ran accross well worth the 5 minutes to view. Enjoy...

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Great Link WW!! :) Thanks
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Post by Elise » Thu Sep 03, 2009 4:33 am

Great video :D Thanks WW

I'm going to have a session with Gina soon.

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Post by Elise » Thu Sep 03, 2009 3:36 pm

Here's the lastest blog post by Gina:

ACCEPTING THE EGO

"In my writing, I’ve often painted the ego as the villain in an attempt to help people see the truth about it and to help break their love affair with it. The ego, represented by the voice in your head, presents itself as wise, helpful, and trustworthy, but it isn’t. If you believe that the ego is something it isn’t, you will be taken for a ride. Then, you might conclude that life is untrustworthy or unkind, when, in fact, it is only the ego that is untrustworthy; it has led you to believe something that wasn’t true.

We, as humans, are programmed to identify with the ego (i.e. the false self, or mind-generated self) and to believe the thoughts that appear in our mind that come from the ego. Following this false self is like following a false master, and realizing this can only improve your life. Just because most people don’t realize that the egoic mind is unhelpful and useless doesn’t mean that this isn’t true. Most are still caught in the illusion that they are who their egoic mind tells them they are and that life is the way their egoic mind tells them it is. However, many are waking up now and seeing just how untrue what it says is.

Once we start to see this, there is often a tendency to go to battle with the voice in our head—to argue with it, to tell it to go away, and to feel angry or upset by it. This reaction is actually a reaction on the part of the ego to its own discovery. The ego takes control once again by resisting and fighting itself, which is how the ego deals with life in general. Going to battle with the ego is just more ego. When we do this, we are still not at peace with life or ourselves.

When we have truly stepped outside the ego, there is nothing but peace and acceptance, even of the ego. After all, that which we truly are has created everything, including the illusion that we are this limited self, so it must also be in acceptance of it. This illusion serves creation, but there comes a time when it no longer serves, and that time is now. It’s time for humanity to wake up from the domination of the egoic mind and to see that it no longer needs this aspect of the mind, which has nothing to do with the functional mind that we very much need. We, as a species, are moving beyond the egoic mind, and many of us are here to herald this evolutionary advancement.

Once we see the truth about the egoic mind, the appropriate relationship to it is one of acceptance, which is the relationship that Essence, our true Self, has to it. Once we are no longer identified with the false self and aligned with Essence, we accept the egoic mind as a natural part of being human. With that acceptance comes the power to choose to re-identify with the ego or not to do this. Acceptance is a place of choice, while rejecting the ego or going to battle with it only keeps us involved with it. Acceptance moves us beyond involvement with it by aligning us with Essence, where the truth about the ego is seen. You accept that the ego and its negativity are part of being human. You accept and understand that the ego is false, untrue, and unnecessary and that its negativity does not define you. And once you really see this, the ego loses its power over you, its power to cause you to identify with it.

When you are identified with the egoic mind, you are following it, believing it, and loving it—unquestioningly. When you are accepting it, you are outside of it and seeing the truth about it and not giving your attention—your love—to it. What we give our attention to is what we love, so when we give our attention to the egoic mind, we are loving it. Accept that this false self exists within you and all of humanity, but give your attention, love, and allegiance to something else. Love the truth.

In painting the ego as the villain, I’m not suggesting that you reject it or go to battle with it, but that you simply see the truth about it and then choose to follow another Master. Like all villains, the ego is a foil—it shows us, through contrast, what truth and goodness are. In this world of duality, the Dark and the false help us to know the Light and the Truth. So, in the end, the villain is simply what drives this adventure of life from the Dark to the Light, and the ego has fulfilled this purpose perfectly."

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Post by Elise » Sat Sep 12, 2009 4:59 am

I had a really great telephone session with Gina & Theo! I would definetly recommend it if you feel so inspired. Here's the most recent blog post by Gina:

TRUE SELF ESTEEM

The issue of self-esteem is complicated by the fact that there are actually two types of self-esteem: That which comes from the ego and that which comes from Essence, or the true Self. The ego bases its self-esteem on looking good in other people’s eyes, so it tries to acquire the things—power, beauty, money, success, comforts—that do this and, therefore, enable it to feel good about itself.

The trouble with this is that life may have other plans than providing you with these things, no matter how hard you try, and even if you do get these things, you may lose them. In the end—at death—everyone loses it all. If your self-esteem is based on how much money, beauty, success, or power you have, whatever gives you self-esteem is bound to be diminished one day, and then what happens to your self-esteem? When it’s built on things that come and go, you can never just rest; you are always trying to maintain or get more of whatever gives you self-esteem. And with the ego, you can never get enough of anything. So, in the end, even if you have money, power, beauty, success, or other things that make the ego feel good, the ego still doesn’t feel good enough.

True self-esteem, on the other hand, comes from contact with Essence, our true nature. When we are in contact with it by being present in the moment and no longer identified with the egoic mind, we are naturally at peace and feel good not only about ourselves, but about everyone and everything else. Contact with Essence is contact with the Oneness that we are. True self-esteem is esteeming everyone and everything (since they are all part of the Oneness that you are). True self-esteem leaves nothing out. It loves not only itself but everything else. This is essentially the state we all hope to abide in always. This is what we all really want. Feeling better than others because we have more beauty, power, wealth, or success than them is an empty victory. This isn’t self-love; it isn’t love at all. It is separation, and separation is a state of unhappiness and a state of imprisonment. You are imprisoned by the ego and its needs and drives, and that is not a pleasant place.

A lot of self-esteem is not even a sense of loving yourself but a pumping up of yourself on the part of the ego to compensate for not feeling good about yourself, which is actually the ego’s ongoing state. The whole issue of self-esteem is an issue that exists because of ego-identification. Without ego-identification, there is no self that needs pumping up; there is only the Self, which includes everyone, and a sense of loving Oneself from a place of completion and contentment.

You don’t get to the experience of this Self by doing anything in particular but more by not doing. What you stop doing is giving your attention to the egoic mind and its constant need for more, better, and something different. Instead, you give your attention to this precious moment, which is complete and full of everything that will make you feel good about yourself and, more importantly, about everyone and everything in life. True self-esteem is not just loving yourself but loving everyone else too—because they are your Self.

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Post by Webwanderer » Sat Sep 12, 2009 4:31 pm

Thanks again Elise. I was on GIna's blog this morning reading an article called "Nothing and Everything". I don't know if she is just the right teacher at the right time, or if she impacts most readers in the same way, but I am profoundly moved by her consistantly high quality of pointers. When I read her, I am taken to a wonderfully deep state of presence and clarity. Something about her writing just says YES! - This is it.

I am interested in hearing more about your session with her and how it impacted you. I realize it may be more personal than you would like to share, and if so that's alright. I'm curious about Theo.

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Re: Gina Lake

Post by Ralph » Wed Dec 30, 2009 11:20 pm

If you are an honest and sincere seeker, I highly recommend you check out Gina Lake's website.
http://www.radicalhappiness.com

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