Bruce Lee said,
i find it confusing sometimes as many people on here say that self doesnt exist, or talk about going beyond self, but to me self isnt just some vague airy fairy notion or mind image about who we think we are, its the thing in me that thinks its seperate, and can work it out, the part of me that argues when it knows its pointless, that takes offence and closes up knowing well that its making more pain,, all that is my self,,,not my body thats pure and programmed to survive,,
I find it helpful to diffentiate between the "idea/image of separate self" and the "sense of being the thinker". Even a thought about now is at best a fragmented representation. The image of separate self depends on, and is a part of, these fragmentations. Human beings are still guided by thought as we traverse through the timeless flow, even thoughts which are "grounded in separation". For instance, later on today, "I" am going to take "my friend" out for a slice of pizza. So we must see and understand that there is nothing inherently wrong with the "fragmentation of reality".
Yet, this unique ability of thinking to fragment leads to the illusory sense of actually being the ego/mind. Karmarider is right, in that there is no "thinker here", only a stream of thoughts arising and subsiding inside that which is timelessly present. It is the "sense of being the thinker", or the "feeling sense that there is a separate self thinking certain thoughts and having certain experiences", which ultimately must be seen through.
There are a few ways to go about realizing there is no thinker as a distinct and separate entity. One would be, to find the Self, awareness, and hold onto it. Ananda is solid in expressing this, a method which could allow you to glimpse and abide in that which you timelessly are. Adyashanti's True Meditation would be a similar kinda thingy. The more clock time one spends in "Pure Awareness", the quicker realization would dawn, I imagine anyway.
Coupled with this, I advocate not just "watching thinking", but understanding, seeing where the mind may be emotionally conflicted with reality, seeing where its being falsely believed that things should or could be different than they are right now. This type of inquiry/observation is more personal in nature, because the mind itself is seeking to understand how and why it thinks the way it does. Because is it not the emotional pull of thinking which often cuts us off? Typically, there is some "emotionally vested thought" which is either being strived for or avoided. We thus understand how the mind plays the role of "emotional manager", which is a role it plays under the false pretenses of being a separate self.
As we begin to understand our own minds, we are simultaneously dismantling the implicit framework necessary to maintain the illusion that there is actually a separate self or separate thinker. Sometimes, the freedom the mind actually seeks is from the emotional pain that it wants to avoid, and if that is the case, freedom is through the pain, always, and not from it.