I am guessing this happened without you doing anything except being there as an example?
Hmm, well that stopped me in my tracks butterfly - interesting observing there! You're right to a degree, and it blends with your next post about the ego and recognising boundaries.
When that blood is pumping in the ears and we can't hear reason it's really quite amazing the things we can believe, and then do in response to reinforce that belief.
'Cutting your nose off to spite your face' comes to mind.
In absence of clarity and reason, by attaching to the 'stories' and feeding the false emotions we can build a web of deception around ourselves, create roles and accessories to reinforce the story. Funnily (or maybe not) others who are of the same vibration congregate and cheer on the misadventure (yaknow the water cooler biatch sessions, or the 'poor you' brigade that feel better reinforcing another's misery and are invested in keeping them in it).
With the absence of fear and with clarity cutting through the 'story' the (real) reality is so obvious as to elicit the response akin to the child in the Emperor's New Clothes story 'The Emperor's got no clothes on!!' (the story is based on falsities)
- it's very hard to not 'notice' not only that the fears are false, but that the 'clothes' he's parading in are not real and those that are cheering the Emperor on... what's that all about if not collective fear?
I guess I did also, with the love and innocence and fearlessness of the child, ask the very obvious question pointing to the falsenesses that held the baggage that stopped this person from being all that they already are and being the bliss. I've learned along the way that stating the 'obvious' elicits more resistance than asking the relevant question. eg: the child might have asked the Emperor discreetly 'Why don't you have any clothes on?' and allowed the Emperor to maintain whatever dignity he had left in his own search for the truth. the child might also have admitted that they just may be unable to see the clothes that everyone else appeared to see.
The thing with this (- is this just being an example?) is that you can plant seeds without attachment to what anyone else might do with them. You take no credit and accept no blame and leave the response ability where it belongs.
If this is done in love, not fear then it can be absorbed in safety and as a receiver it's an awareness from which you cannot go back. The water cooler and poor you brigade will still try to remind you of the story to hook you back in, but the 'calmness' of the truth will usually not be thwarted - and then the 'hard' reality stuff usually kicks in.
As an aside living the bliss is not without risks and hardships and pain - real risks and hardships and pain - the person mentioned above through the very same pursuit is now in a state of acceptance of consequences that the water cooler/ poor you brigade are trotting out as a negative and this person is just accepting as a reality. Pain in life is all but guaranteed, suffering is optional.
When the negative cries were getting pretty loud I quietly asked 'Was it worth it?'
Their response - 'Sh*t yeah!' (as they lay recovering from a major operation from a serious injury).
When I asked 'Will you still do it?'
'Of course, as soon as I'm fit enough. If I think I still have the capacity'.
That would be my honest observation too, but it's not my call to make. I can only smile (absolutely with compassion and love) at the acceptance of the real reality.
Our rights start deep within our humanity; they end where another's begin~~ SmileyJen